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Old 07-05-2009, 11:11 PM   #8
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Originally Posted by baja View Post
Since you asked, I'll add the male point of view.

Ren_07, the two guys you gave as an example are basically in the "once bitten, twice shy" category. They are over-reacting to the prior relationship fail. So now, they want things on their terms and on a very limited basis -- a disposable relationship -- good for one night only. It doesn't mean they don't want commitment, they just haven't worked through their prior issues. These guys will eventually want more as they mature and also find those great relationship-oriented women who simply don't do one night stands.

Good point, baja...it is very true (though I'm a female). These guys will reach a certain level of maturity that they'd want the real thing, and sometime along their journey, they will meet their match. The question is when...

I think, this will occur once they realize their need to re-focus their priorities and lean on self-improvement and change. Once they get there, the rest will be growth. It has been great watching this event - I've seen one!
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