I've been in a similar situation. Especially with guy number one. As soon as you find happiness, he took advantage of the fact that he never gave you closure and asks for you back when it's convenient for HIM.
Guy number two seems a bit more complicated. If he hadn't changed from the guy you met at the start, whom you claim to have fallen in love with instantly, then you most likely would not be confused. But he threw you a curve ball as life often does. Which he further stretches by claiming a long distance relationship cannot work. I believe he says this not because it's the honest truth, but to discourage you from going away for a year. That's quite a difficult strain on anyone and with him coming out of a depression, he's probably going to take a blow by not seeing someone who cared for him that he's relied upon for so long.
My advice to you is to analize these situations. Do you really want someone who is unreliable and cannot keep to his word? Do you really want someone who selfishly does not want what is best for you and your happiness by making you choose between a career choice and a relationship to benefit himself?
Shut the door to these men. Grow a backbone, pack up your bags, and find that man of your dreams in Switzerland. Love is not selfish, love is patient and kind. It's time that someone gave to you what you give to others and actually RECEIVE something in return.
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