Apparently, you are IN a relationship. He IS a boyfriend - just scared of the "label" and demands that the label goes with. I can tell that you care for this guy, but since he's keeping you at arms length, I advise you to do the same for now. He seems to have the feelings for you, just scared to really take the risk once more. He was burnt and so were you before. Until he understands that love is all about playing risks, he will not be in it.
If you are patient enough, just wait. Watch the relationship grow if you can. Since you are more capable in "guiding" the relationship for the moment, be generous and more supportive. Just be guarded though that you are not co-dependent. I have been in such situation. We had a break for a month to re-evaluate ourselves and determine how each other fits one's life. When we got back, we became serious. Now, we still are. But it didn't happen overnight. Good luck.
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