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Tama · 07-08-2009, 10:57 AM

I just wanted to say thank you , for all of yourinput. I know he screwed up, and I've had a couple of friends say I should leave him. But, like I said, I do love him, and I meant when I said, "For better or worse". I guess my biggest problem is that he [U]is[U] willing to work things out.
He is very eager to start over. And for that I am grateful. If he had tried to stop me from deleting his accounts and such I think I would have been even more upset. But, when we talked about all of this we both agreed that the past monthhad taken its toll on us. And he apologized profusely, said there was no excuse for what he did, and he just wanted to start again. Which is great.
But I cant get over it. It was only a week ago that this has all happened, and I think I'm entitled to a little bit of freak out time.
But, he's getting upset at me for not trying to move past it all. And, even though he is truly sorry, I don't think he realizes how deeply this all hurt me, and I'm not sure how to tell him that I'm going to need more than a few days to get past this.
And as far as counseling, any suggestions on where to go? Keep in mind that while we are financially stable, I don't think we could afford to go to a couples therapist. Is there any chance that maybe our church would offer? I'm alittle embarassed to get counseling from my pastor, whom I've known for 5 yrs, and my husband has known his whole life.
I really appreciate all the support you guys have given.

07-08-2009, 10:57 AM	#9
Tama Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: East Texas Posts: 14	Thank you I just wanted to say thank you , for all of yourinput. I know he screwed up, and I've had a couple of friends say I should leave him. But, like I said, I do love him, and I meant when I said, "For better or worse". I guess my biggest problem is that he [U]is[U] willing to work things out. He is very eager to start over. And for that I am grateful. If he had tried to stop me from deleting his accounts and such I think I would have been even more upset. But, when we talked about all of this we both agreed that the past monthhad taken its toll on us. And he apologized profusely, said there was no excuse for what he did, and he just wanted to start again. Which is great. But I cant get over it. It was only a week ago that this has all happened, and I think I'm entitled to a little bit of freak out time. But, he's getting upset at me for not trying to move past it all. And, even though he is truly sorry, I don't think he realizes how deeply this all hurt me, and I'm not sure how to tell him that I'm going to need more than a few days to get past this. And as far as counseling, any suggestions on where to go? Keep in mind that while we are financially stable, I don't think we could afford to go to a couples therapist. Is there any chance that maybe our church would offer? I'm alittle embarassed to get counseling from my pastor, whom I've known for 5 yrs, and my husband has known his whole life. I really appreciate all the support you guys have given.