It will take some time to come to terms with this. Talk to him, tell him how much you love and desire him, how happy you are that he wants to work things out. Work is the operative word. You gave him your love and trust, he wounded it and wounds take time to heal and sometimes they require some therapy and extra work to rebuild the strength.
He feels guilty and wants you to simply forget it all so he won't have to face how much his actions hurt you and the relationship. Help him understand that the innocence of your trust is gone, that can't be restored (it's kind of like virginity). You now have to build trust and that means he will have to take the time and effort to show you that you can trust him and trust his love. You will have be aware of his efforts and show your appreciation for that. You can rebuild this and have something realistically adult and deep and true, but it won't happen overnight, he needs to understand that.
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