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Tama · 07-08-2009, 08:40 PM

Donlt think me awful if I say that my parents did nothing right. They were more of a what not to do guide than anything else, I was just stubborn enough to realize that I didn't want to be anything like them, and didn't want my little brother growing up the way I did.
I fought long and hard to find a judge that would grant me custody, and not over look serious abuse problems, just because I was nineteen at the time.
I have talked to him about college to try and get him motivated, but he just does not want to go.
I asked him what he wanted to do and he told me he wanted to fly planes. Which is obvious if you ever go into his room. Model planes are all over the place, along with posters of fighter jets.
He wants to go into the army and get trained there, and he's heard all the hub-bub about the army paying for your school.
I have 2 older brothers that went into the army and they signed the contract saying they wanted to train and go to school for a specific occupation. But the army sent them all over and back to the point that they just didn't have time to go to school, and ended up getting the job experiance and work training in the areas that the army needed rather than the area they chose. I've asked, and this is not a new thing. They promise to send you to school, and then make sure you're where they want you anyway.

I don't want my lil bro signing a contract that is going to lock him in a high stress occupation, that he hates.
Not to mention the fact that, he doesn't need the army to pay for school. Since my first job in highschool, I've been putting money aside for him. I knew no one else was going to make sure he had the tools he needed to be what he wanted, so as soon as I started saving my money for college I saved for him too.
If he wanted to go to Texas A&M right now, I could walk in and pay cash for his first term. And if he would get his grades up he could also qualify for scholarships and grants.
But he just doesn't see how, working his tail off now is going to benefit him in the future. And I still haven't found out what it is that will push him to try harder.
I appreciate your advice. And I hope you'll keep trying to help me out. I don't really have any other adults to look up to and ask for help.

07-08-2009, 08:40 PM	#3
Tama Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: East Texas Posts: 14	Donlt think me awful if I say that my parents did nothing right. They were more of a what not to do guide than anything else, I was just stubborn enough to realize that I didn't want to be anything like them, and didn't want my little brother growing up the way I did. I fought long and hard to find a judge that would grant me custody, and not over look serious abuse problems, just because I was nineteen at the time. I have talked to him about college to try and get him motivated, but he just does not want to go. I asked him what he wanted to do and he told me he wanted to fly planes. Which is obvious if you ever go into his room. Model planes are all over the place, along with posters of fighter jets. He wants to go into the army and get trained there, and he's heard all the hub-bub about the army paying for your school. I have 2 older brothers that went into the army and they signed the contract saying they wanted to train and go to school for a specific occupation. But the army sent them all over and back to the point that they just didn't have time to go to school, and ended up getting the job experiance and work training in the areas that the army needed rather than the area they chose. I've asked, and this is not a new thing. They promise to send you to school, and then make sure you're where they want you anyway. I don't want my lil bro signing a contract that is going to lock him in a high stress occupation, that he hates. Not to mention the fact that, he doesn't need the army to pay for school. Since my first job in highschool, I've been putting money aside for him. I knew no one else was going to make sure he had the tools he needed to be what he wanted, so as soon as I started saving my money for college I saved for him too. If he wanted to go to Texas A&M right now, I could walk in and pay cash for his first term. And if he would get his grades up he could also qualify for scholarships and grants. But he just doesn't see how, working his tail off now is going to benefit him in the future. And I still haven't found out what it is that will push him to try harder. I appreciate your advice. And I hope you'll keep trying to help me out. I don't really have any other adults to look up to and ask for help.