I do have half a brain. Fortunately it has the power of 15 SUPER COMPUTERS!!!
Ok let me play devils advocate here.
People are not flawed! They are unique. Change your mindset!
The problem with men and women is there lack of understanding and empathizing with other species. Because
people tend to deal with others how they want to be dealt with. They communicate in ways that make sense to themselves! WHICH IS THE BIG REASON WHY MEN AND WOMEN DONT UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER!!! Unless you put an EXTREME amount of effort in doing so.
^READ THAT AGAIN!
People dont Live there life thinking and saying to themselves I wonder if he is seeing the same color I see or does this smell the same for him. WE ASSUME IT DOES!
Thats the problem!
The reason why the men in your life are emotional basket cases were because you WANTED THAT EMOTIONAL STIMULATION!!!!!
People tend to associate with others that closely resemble there own character or emotional maturity. "Birds of a feather flock together" or "Misery loves company" are all idioms that represent this thought!
All women say they want a nice caring guy that treats them right and has a good job. BUT WHAT WOMEN RESPOND TOO, is variety, excitement, challenge, not knowing what happens next.
To say that all man have atleast one emotional issue is a ridiculous claim. Wild child in your 50 years of meeting and dating men you probably generously met 1000 men. Even with that number you have met less then .000001 percent of men out there.
It took me roughly 3 years of constant work, dedication, will, and courage to get to the point where I am. That is one of complete love and personal fulfillment. I agree there is room for growth but that only to build on an existing structure I no longer have any emotional issues or character flaws at least in my eyes.
Some people think Im too confident, but there just jealous. haha Im really the most humble person on in the world.
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Now,
Onto ren.
There are a few things that are causing you to stay with this man.
1. Attraction is natures way of taking over our minds and bodies long enough to create an emotional bond.
2. You believe that if he cares about you then it will eventually show. Which I believe was a comment from a previous poster. IT IS WRONG. It will never happen.
3. Its almost every womens fantasy to take the bad boy and tame them into a nice caring husband. It empower your femininity.
Its only at the brink that a person will change. He has to WANT to change with all his heart and soul!
All those emotions that you are experiencing with this boy you will experience with another. You can trust me on that!
Hope this helps
Live laugh and love