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sugarbee · 07-09-2009, 01:23 PM

Ok, Ladies...I am new to this board and am asking for some advice.

here goes...I had a pretty good relationship with my sis in law...never an ill word has been said by either of us, we have always gotten along pretty good up until facebook came into our lives. One day an ex girlfriend of my brother's (from 15 yrs ago) contacted me. I was thrilled, this woman was good to me in so many ways - she was a nurse and was there for me when I was pregnant and had left my abusive husband - she opened her door to me, set me up with a great obgyn and was there for the birth of my first born. Things between her and my brother fell apart while I was living with her - and well I never really got a chance to say thank you and say how greatful I was for all she did. Again I was thrilled when she contacted me via facebook - we strictly emailed each other and never posted comments to each other. I found out about what her life is like now and I shared with her what I was up to too...remarried, baby girl new home...etc and i was finally able to thank her for all she did for me. After we caught up we didn't really say much to each other and just kept each other as friends on facebook as what happens with most friends you find on FB.
About a month or so later my sis in law calls me and starts with "this is going to be a little awkward.." she asks me if I have the EX as a freind on FB, I say yes? She then states "don't you think that having her on is in Bad Taste? I reply with I don't understand what you are saying (at this point I am shocked she is even talking to me about this) "Yes, this woman had lived with your brother for a good 5 years, don't you think it is in BAD TASTE that you have her on as a FB friend. I frankly told her it was really none of her business...then she started to yell at me - I told her not to raise her voice at me twice...then she decided to unload the F word and I hung up before she could finish. I then called my bro and told him what was going on...he was pissed at me?!!!! And I haven't talked to them since. My question is am I wrong??? Am I the bad guy here...just need some advice?

07-09-2009, 01:23 PM	#1
sugarbee Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 1	Facebook and Sis in law Ok, Ladies...I am new to this board and am asking for some advice. here goes...I had a pretty good relationship with my sis in law...never an ill word has been said by either of us, we have always gotten along pretty good up until facebook came into our lives. One day an ex girlfriend of my brother's (from 15 yrs ago) contacted me. I was thrilled, this woman was good to me in so many ways - she was a nurse and was there for me when I was pregnant and had left my abusive husband - she opened her door to me, set me up with a great obgyn and was there for the birth of my first born. Things between her and my brother fell apart while I was living with her - and well I never really got a chance to say thank you and say how greatful I was for all she did. Again I was thrilled when she contacted me via facebook - we strictly emailed each other and never posted comments to each other. I found out about what her life is like now and I shared with her what I was up to too...remarried, baby girl new home...etc and i was finally able to thank her for all she did for me. After we caught up we didn't really say much to each other and just kept each other as friends on facebook as what happens with most friends you find on FB. About a month or so later my sis in law calls me and starts with "this is going to be a little awkward.." she asks me if I have the EX as a freind on FB, I say yes? She then states "don't you think that having her on is in Bad Taste? I reply with I don't understand what you are saying (at this point I am shocked she is even talking to me about this) "Yes, this woman had lived with your brother for a good 5 years, don't you think it is in BAD TASTE that you have her on as a FB friend. I frankly told her it was really none of her business...then she started to yell at me - I told her not to raise her voice at me twice...then she decided to unload the F word and I hung up before she could finish. I then called my bro and told him what was going on...he was pissed at me?!!!! And I haven't talked to them since. My question is am I wrong??? Am I the bad guy here...just need some advice?