05-06-2007, 08:52 PM
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The Danger of Denial
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Denial is the thin layer of insulation
between the event and emotion.
It delays acceptance, recognition and helps
you feel even stupider at the end of the day.
A friend of mine once said;
"Always expect the worst. If it happens, you
won't be disappointed. If it doesn't, what
ever happens is okay."
No matter where you are in a relationship,
always hold that percentage of doubt, of
danger, of the worst thing happening.
Before you go into denial, you embrace
probability. In this way it won't take you
completely by surprise.
Everything is possible. Adultery, desertion,
death, insanity. Not that you 'summon' the
deamon by calling it's name, you permit the
possibility that it exists.
A true story that I can repeat a dozen times
concerns the woman whose husband always
left the same time in the morning, always returned
home the same time in the evening and never
went out without her or the kids.
When he died, a woman with three kids showed up
at the funeral.
the wife was dead sure that the woman was a liar.
After all she knew where he was...
except...
lunch.
During his lunch break this Husband would slam
this woman. Five days a week, from 12 to 1
they were having it on.
How did she feel, standing there, her husband
in his coffin, seeing this female with her brood,
realising that for all these years he was cheating
and she never even guessed.
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