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Originally Posted by OhThereYouAre
Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free?
You had sex with him too early - before he got to know you as a person. You've lost your mystique.
As for the random nights of sex, sorry to say, but to him it was just sex. He was probably in the mood and thought what the .
Don't make yourself into a sex toy for him by sleeping with him anymore. He's using you.
Let him go. But don't be nasty about....be classy.
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I really don't think its about that whole losing the mystique from sleeping with someone too soon. Lots of women have had sex or close enough with their S.O on the first date and it turned into a serious relationship. It all depends on attraction/chemistry , having things in common beyond the sex and both looking for the same things out of life.
I had sex (or close) with my boyfriend on our first date, granted we knew each other a few weeks before that date. Maybe that makes a difference than going home with a guy the first time you meet them?
Maybe its because we had a chance to get to know each other and realize we liked each other and had a bit of a build up before the actual date that made it easier to transission into it so quickly.
But I've heard and even read on these boards of women going to bed with a man almost immediately and them working out to much more. I guess what I am saying is its not about "mystique". It's more about - do you guys have more to offer each other than just sex.
To the OP: Do you guys talk about your life or is it all pretty much sex only? Do you take an interest in his life or has he asked you about yourself? I don't think a relationship can go anywhere if its based purely on sex and you don't enjoy each others company when you are not having it.
Sex is but a small percentage of the day (of course probably the best part lol) but there is a whole lot of day left over after and before sex, if you can't find ways to enjoy that part together... its not likely to work.