Or google "The Abusive Woman." Your mother sounds exactly like my mother. I don't call her "Mom" either ... for the same reason.
You are doing yourself no favor in staying at home; moving into the dorms was the best thing that ever happened to me. Certainly, it costs money, but you have to weigh out how much you value your daily sanity. Are you really staying home because it's the best thing for your education? Or is that just what your mother says? She'll have nobody to take out her frustrations on if you leave home. So even if her words lead you to believe you are the bane of her existence, really you're the backbone. She's channeling all the hate she has for herself into you.
There is no arguing or reasoning with a person like you've described your mother. Unless she herself gets into therapy AND gets a therapist who she CANNOT manipulate, things will not get better.
Think long and hard about distancing yourself from this situation and about moving onto campus. There are plenty of ways to finance it, and you may find that living there actually enhances your studies instead of hurts them. Think about what YOU want, what YOU feel the effects of getting out would be, not what your mother thinks or has told you.
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