Oh, an update and a sort of encouragement for the OP and other women who are in the same boat...
After I told my SO that if we are to keep US together, stronger, we have to focus on our relationship ang not waste energies outside of it. I explicitly expressed that I equate going to strip joints (while we are a couple) as cheating. And if he wants, he can go, but I will have to be out of the picture. I didn't threaten him, I just told him that that is how I want to be treated - with respect (that's how I see it, you know). And he told me that it is not worth losing me for such. He added that if I don't like it, then he won't. I believe him, I trust him, and he knows it. All it takes now is for him to keep his word, and I know that he can do it. But should he ask for us to go together just for the fun of it...I still might (that is how I can compromise)...provided, he won't get a lap dance - because I will give him once we get home!
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