srussell

First of all, I hope that my mother doesn't read this because I don't want to hurt her feelings because we've talked about this problem because she went through not exact but some of the same similar problems that I'm going through.

I will say this, I'm not depressed about this, just concerned.

I am 17 and this is my first post. I feel that most of my high school friends look at me as attractive, pretty, nice, and all the good attributes that a teenager wants to be thought of as. This problem came up 3 years ago and I'm trying to deal with it since then. I blossomed, like my mother, and went from nearly flat chested at 12-13 to EE boobs at 17 and all of a sudden, I'm extremely popular, friends, as my dad would say, coming out of the woodwork with my new look.

Mom went through the same problems as a teenager as this problem runs in our family, large boobs and small waist. Mine is 18 inches and moms was 19 inches in school. My mom gained weight with my older brother and I but was able to loose 98% of the excess and has kept a very trim figure with a 23 inch waist just like grandma did and she's now 63, so it's hereditary(sp?) My problem is I get crude comments from guys as well as girls that aren't really my long term friends. Some of my 'aquaintances' will talk behind my back and I hear about it from some of my friends and when I confront them they won't own up to it but I know they said what was said, I just know it. Some of the girl comments are worse than the guy comments and I know what the guys are up to. Just would like to find out if other girls/women/ladies have this problem besides my mom and mammaw and how you dealt with the issue and what did you say in response to the comments if anything. Thanks in advance for your help and mom if you're reading this, I hope you understand why I wanted a larger perspective.

Hopeless Dork

Hi Srussel!

High School is hard on everyone, even pretty and popular as you are demonstrating with your post. Some people pick on the less attractive or misfits, but most feel guilty about doing that. The more attractive you are the more okay people think it is to pick apart your flaws. They don't feel as bad as they perceive you have a charmed life and like to point out things to make you feel insecure.

Truth is, no matter your social status or how fantastic most of a persons qualities are - being picked on, made fun of , for ANYTHING still hurts. Some girls will be jealous of the attention they see you getting from guys, and some guys that know they don't have a chance with you will also act like jealous school girls poking fun sometimes.

This is nature, this is what you were born to grow into and it sounds like you have a good handle on accepting your new blossomed into body. I didn't have large breasts in high school but "developed" them later and even as a grown woman I get the comments (usually dirty looks too) from ladies and men as well. But I am happy with my body and know that those people aren't in my everyday life, what they think in a passing moment matters so little to me.

People are mean. High school girls are among the meanest and I am sure you already know that. Be happy with yourself, you don't need a comeback as being happy and content is the biggest "IN YOUR FACE!!" to jerks, bullies etc. But... if you got to respond : When a girl feels the need to point out how large your breasts are, thank her for noticing, smile and tell her don't worry when she grows up she just might get some own too There are much meaner things you can say (I've got a list of them lol) but really you don't need to stoop to their behavior.

Live happy, be happy, and treat others kindly. You get to feel good about yourself when you wake up the morning. Let them age disgracefully filled with venom and nastiness.

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taro

hello Srussel

i also have large breasts and i actually began wearing a bra in the 4th grade. by the time i was in middle school i was already a c cup and for years after that i was tormented. i was accused of stuffing my bra by the girls and constantly sexually harrassed by the boys. it was awful and i went through so much pain just for having something i should be proud of. so i know what you went through and i can tell you from personal experience, that it's all going to end soon.

honestly, after high school i was no longer tormented for the size of my breasts. instead i was praised and i have to say that i used to hide under big sweaters and i was ashamed of them, but now i'm proud. i don't wear provocative clothing, but i feel extremely confident when i wear clothes. i love the way i look and i think you should too. as far as men are concerned, you will still run into disgusting excuses for the human race, but you just have to hold your head up and walk straight ahead without looking back. i assure you, not all men are like that.

WildChild

Right now you are dealing with some immature people and while you'll always find a few of them in life, as you get older their numbers will diminish. Even at your age there are girls around you who are contemplating or even getting breast enlargements - some of them may be the same people who are being so nasty. This is a form of insecurity on their part, it really has nothing to do with you! It can be difficult but the best thing you can do is to hold your head up, walk tall and ignore them.

Long term it's your personality and brains that will count for the most and obviously you aren't just bigger busted than this lot, you are more balanced and sensible. Just hold on, it's difficult now but it won't always be this way.

ThexMrs

Lucky.

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Ed69

Realy can you tell us how she's luckyMy wife has H cup breasts and it's been anything but lucky for her.

CHANDLERS WISH

Lighten up ed... women who are smaller want larger, women who are larger want smaller...

H cup? I have never heard of anything over D? ...

I imagine that would be extremely painful.. Obviously this worries you...

CW

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caterpillar79

Does H-cup mean HAPPY cup or (please excuse me...horny cup!)? LOL! Define this, Ed!

Srussel,
The way you percieve yourself would exude and that's how people would see you. Be proud with what you have, don't stoop down to their level. For all I care they are insecure. If you happen to read on other threads, some women want larger breasts, while others want it "trimmed". It's all an issue of preference. But once you feel good about yourself, people will see that and will repspect you for it.

Build on your confidence, excell academically and achieve your goals. After all, you'll be a grown woman soon and you'll look back...and you'll thank your mom for having passed on to you those genes. Keep yourself trim, workout and eat a balanced diet.

Hapiness is a choice. Go for it!

MandyBee23

I'm sorry for what you are going through. I was made fun of for having a flat chest through out school. Too big, too small, you just can't win! You can't make everyone happy in life that is for sure. When I was going through it I just kept telling myself that I’d probably never see half these people again after high school, which I only talk to two girlfriends (6 years later). The best thing you can do (like the others have said) is to act like it doesn't bother you because if you let it show then what they are doing is working, they want a reaction. And they are definitely jealous if they are smaller than you, I know I'd be.

Ed69

Trust me D is just the start of large,google Nadine Jansen and you'll see what my wife packs around!They fun in the bedroom,but riding horses or hiking is another matter.All I'm saying be carefull what you wish for.