I hate being ugly

**Prisma Glass** · 01-02-2011 01:50 AM

Personally, I'm sick of it. People make fun of me all the time, and while I am learned to not let them know I'm upset on the outside, I'm still upset on the inside. I get home and I just fall into these fits of mass depression because of my looks. I have this bushy hair that I can't seem to thin to save my life, and it just puffs everywhere. And my eyes are those kind that sort of droop downwards a bit, and are so dark you can barely see the brown. Then, my face is that long type, so its like my features are all pulled out. and whenever I put my hood or beanie on to keep warm, people mistake me for a boy. I don't care that I don't have anything much of a chest or hips... I don't care that my body isn't curvy and nice like the other girls. But people make fun of my face all the time....and it bothers me to the point that I have had to come here to ask for help. What do I do? Makeup looks horrible on me, and I just look horrid in general. I don't know what to do anymore, please help me and tell me how I can just not look like this. I'm alone at my school because everyone counts me out for being ugly. I really need your help. Thanks for taking your time to read.

And if you can't work off my bad description of myself, http://i666.photobucket.com/albums/vv22/blissfulbea/Untitled-10.png?t=1293958010 here is what I look like, so maybe you can help me off that....thanks ever so...

**jns** · 01-02-2011 02:09 AM

How old are you? Have you ever gone to a salon to have a professional do a makeover and show you what looks good with your features? If you were smiling it would make your picture that much better. I think your picture is fine as it is, though.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 01-02-2011 02:20 AM

Honey, I looked at your photo...

This is what I saw, beautiful eyes,very unique, dark and stunning a sad face....

Let me tell you something....You are idential to all girls that feel a little lost, in their looks....At 16, I had, had enough, long neck, long hair with no shape, I saw myself as the ugly duckling...But, by 18, I changed my hair style, grew up a little more and became a model, ...I think kids are cruel and they love to work on low self esteme and pick on those but if I was you?

I'd do this....

Your hair needs to grow...let it get longer, put a small fringe as well at the top, and your face image will change....Be proud of your eyes, I'd love to have "deep to the soul eyes"...

Only wear lipgloss, ditch your beanie and hood and get a warm jacket and a trendy beanie if you have to wear one....

They make fun of your face, because your a tom boy and they don't realise you will turn into a swan and then they are going to be jealous, a little futher down the track..

I think if I can be blunt? Your worried about how people perceive you and your letting them "win".....Your a tomboy at the moment and there's nothing wrong with that....try to remind yourself, they say your this and that, take a real good look, I see a very pretty girl that is going to have amazing looks as she matures more...I see that because I was you....and I see your photo.....

I also was a loner at school, my parents made me wear pink

that's only one issue....but the "real" people I befriended, including a guy with a hole in his heart, a girl with exmma, and needless to say, I had to learn to stand up for myself.

Don't change because of stupid kids.....You are very pretty..

Change schools and learn how to mingle and make friends.....

If YOU want a change, try what I have suggested....

Welcome to the Forum sweetheart....watch everyone tell you the same.

CW

**laulau** · 01-02-2011 06:29 AM

So, lovely lady... Sometimes when I wore a beanie my own mother would mistake me for my brother. Always my friends would say "it's for boys but you can come" I was a tom boy and to a massive extent I still am. It hasn't always been the easiest thing to deal with for loads of reasons but I am getting of track here.... I did feel ugly for most of my life and when my school formal rolled round I wore makeup for the first time people saw me in a different light. I do wear lip gloss now and some times a bit of blush.... Just to give me that slight touch of femininity that I like. But not to much so others know that I can still kick it with the best of em' "nothing grubby is going to scare me"

Now... 5 quick things....

1) your eyes droopy? NO! They drew me in. Beautiful.
2) get a trim at a salon to fix the hair if you don't like it. go somewhere reputable and it might cost a little bit more but you will be suprised also change shampoo you can get frizz control shampoo and other lotions.
3) your skin is like a dolls.... i dont have to say anymore?
4) I really hated my nose.... and when I was younger i used to dream of getting new one..... The nose looked just like yours....
5) at the end of the day 100000 people can tell you are beautiful.(you are) but you need to start believeing in yourself. Don't change to much to fit in anywhere... ever!! People can be horrible now, tomorrow and forever. You will always be you.... beautiful, I hope you are as beautiful on the inside as you are on the out.

:-D

**Agony_Aunt** · 01-02-2011 06:52 AM

I see nothing wrong with that picture, apart from the sad look on your face.

I think because of how you are feeling, it is causing you to not like what you see..

Pull your hair back from your eye's, which are beautiful. And just smile and take another picture, and you yourself will see the difference.

**Hopeless Dork** · 01-02-2011 08:30 AM

First of all your a beautiful girl, you have no disfigurements, no oddities that some people have to deal with ... so you really have to be thankful for that. I have a plain jane face, its not what defines me... I'll never look like megan fox or angelina jolie either.. What you need to learn to do, is what almost all women that you see and think are attractive do -- accentuate the positives.

Brightning up your hair a bit may bring a glow to your face.. have you considered going lighter? Not necessarily blonde... but some highlights or a lighter brown?

Professional eyebrow waxing... not saying ANYTHIGN is wrong with your current eyebrows... but to spice things up... it costs 7 bucks to have them arched into a shape that will make your eyes stand out.

Eyeliner and Mascera. Give you a long full eyelash look... if you use dark eyeliner and thick mascera it will make your eyes really stand out.

Lip stick. You can really play up your lips with a deep pink, light red... some lip liner to give them fullness or a bow if you like ... whatever you like... but putting some color on your lips makes them appear full and feminine.

Earrings... earings that are big and pretty, are a decoration , an accessory but they pull together a pretty femme look.

Not all women are symetric freaks for perfection with high cheek bones, perfectly blue eyes and plump lips right out of maxim magazine... in fact its so uncommon, thats the reason they PUT those girls in magazines and billboards because they are not average. So stop comparing yourself to images in mags or movies... they are in those things for a reason... if everyone looked liked they do, no one would care to see them in magazines.

Instead focus about the things about yoruself that you know are feelign good about. You mention a girly curvy body... trust that is an equalizer to the most stunning of faces in many cases... work on the things about yourself that you have control over and learn to accept the things you don't. You are a pretty girl but it seems you have it in your head that you must be a supermodel...to be pretty... and thats just not true.

You can be the best version of yourself, and with a little effort you can take plain pretty to attractive pretty and be the envy of the very girls people that tease you.

**SidneyAlive** · 01-02-2011 09:34 AM

OOoo honey, you're not ugly at all, get that notion out of your head right now, your eyes are pretty, let your hair grow a bit and smile..

**Texinator** · 01-02-2011 10:03 AM

Also, a smile can go a very long way

**wxlover** · 01-06-2011 03:22 AM

Don't tube others,live for yourself!!!!

**bloodsexandbooze** · 01-13-2011 01:57 PM

You are most certainly not ugly. Are you at school? If you are, that's probably a lot of the reason why you're feeling so low about yourself. People 'grow into' their features. And you already have really nice features. Maybe do some things to make yourself feel better - going to the hairdressers, doing girly things, just little changes to make yourself feel good. And smile