I hate the way I look....

**annataria92** · 01-26-2011 03:09 AM

This isn't me fishing for compliments, I'm not even going to post a picture because people tell me I'm pretty but it makes no difference. I can take a good picture when posing but in life I just feel ugly. I hate the way I look in candid pictures and on video. I actually break down if I see myself on film and its completely taking over my life. I was raised on disney princess videos, and I've always wanted to be one of those traffic stopping beauties, but I'm just not. I'm not and will never be that girl that guys fall over themselves for or spot from across a crowded room and I hate it

I feel like I'll never find love. I don't believe that any guy would find me attractive at all...so if a guy says so I generally turn him down because I just think he's ting. I don't know what to do anymore

I can't go shopping anymore because I'm just constantly comparing myself to other girls (I'm 18) I can't watch certain films because generally the women are always gorgeous so I end up crying. I'm running out of options and my friends are family are getting really pissed off with me, they think I'm just self conscious and attention seeking but I'm not

I don't know what to do

**WildChild** · 01-26-2011 08:26 AM

It sounds like you need to talk with a counselor.

**LanaBear** · 01-26-2011 10:59 AM

^^ Totally agree. It would more than likely do you a world of good to see somebody.

**snappy1** · 02-03-2011 03:11 AM

Never compare yourself with others. Physical beauty will disappear over years but you need to have a beautiful heart. If you are good to others, others will accept you for what you are. Don’t merely go by looks and cheat yourself. You are created to be like this and be happy with whatever you’ve got. Have a positive attitude towards life and enjoy your life. After all you’ve got only one life to live.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-03-2011 03:34 AM

I was raised on disney princess videos, and I've always wanted to be one of those traffic stopping beauties,

Your parents gave you fantasies, we all saw snow white, repunzel, and we all grew up wanting picket fences....

How we view ourselves in attractiveness depends on how we were bought up, tough love? No compliments? A feeling of being un-loved? No identity dress wise?

If your parents said awee , princess, your just like repunzel, would you not go and try to find a prince?

And if you were un-loved, tough love would you still want a prince?

You don't feel what you look like because no one made you feel that way and maybe they wanted you to be real, so didn't preach your looks....

It means you can find yourself and know your identity instead of "being a princess" un-happy all your life as you expect everything from a partner.

Understand what's behind it and you'll understand why you feel the way you do ...Honestly , your pretty? Your in a good spot you can find your own identiy instead of being a spoilt princess.... and you have looks.

CW

**redhot2602** · 03-04-2011 02:57 PM

all i have to say is you need to go to a councelor. and man up. who gives a eff what anyone else thinks. enjoy your life for YOU. go shopping and find what looks good on you. find friends to help and encourage you. you have to look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are bueautiful over and over til you really believe it. im not kidding, ive heard that from professionals.

**candicej** · 03-07-2011 07:13 PM

The great thing about it is, you don't NEED to be a Disney princess, hun =) Men don't expect women to look like that, and you shouldn't either. Try and go to a therapist so she can help you out.

Hope everything goes well!

**LILYBET** · 03-07-2011 07:47 PM

You are 18 it is not abnormal for you to feel a little bit insecure, but you are going too far. You say you do not believe you are beautiful, this is crucial because what you believe has a strong impact in how you feel. You must stop comparing yourself to others, it will lead no where but a path of self-destruction. ACCEPT YOURSELF!!! there is nothing more sexy than confidence, no matter how you look.

**Mighty Grasshopper** · 03-08-2011 05:20 PM

Wow this post just breaks my heart! I agree I think it would do some good to speak with a counselor or therapist. There is so much good out there to experience and to hear that this is taking up your life is just not right.

Btw I have to say I was in your position too. Perhaps not as consumed but I did think "who would date me?" or "I'm not a tall handsome white man so no one will find me attractive" etc etc. Find someone to talk to please.