shoe problem

**deep_fear** · 04-28-2011 04:26 AM

Hello,

I am going to a wedding as a guest for my finacee's couisns wedding. I had a bunion surgary 6 years ago and I have never been able to walk in high heels because of my foot problems..My fiancee tells me at the wedding all the woman are wearing high heel and im expected to..what can I do? Is there any other shoe that is good with a dress besdies high heels...plus one that covers the toes ( i also have bag fungi ..to much info i know sorry) anyone have any advice on what shoe to get?

**Robert42d** · 04-28-2011 04:42 AM

I've had problems wearing high heels in the past! You might want to check at a specialty store in your local area...I'm shure they'll be able to recommend something. Good Luck!

**Seeker_Advice** · 04-29-2011 09:40 AM

The shoes that are proper for your feet based on your history.

Would he rather you be comfortable or miserable?

I don't think he's being very considerate or supportive.

**WildChild** · 04-29-2011 09:41 AM

There are lots of really cute flats these days. Check out Thoms.

**deep_fear** · 05-02-2011 02:55 AM

i decied im going to try highheels during the wedding and at the after party wear flates...i was with my fiancee at the mall looking at shoes...everytimei looked at the flates he rolled his eyes and got all pissy..and everytime i picked up a shoes he thought was ugly he said "NO"....so ya i guess ill just go with high hells and flates at the after party or ill have to lisen all night to " SEE that girl is wearing high heels BE A WOMAN"..ug Thanks All!

**deep_fear** · 05-02-2011 02:58 AM

good idea sidneyalive!..i was looking at a pair like this the other day and tryed them on there not so bad

...but that was one of them i picked and my fiancee said NO to...i tryed convincing him that they were fine but after a while he just got pissy and said " fine do what u want"...so to avoid another stupid fight Im just going to try wearing them stupid pointed heels that kill my feet lol.. thanks

**Robert42d** · 05-02-2011 06:19 AM

Square heels would of been perfect! Better support! Sounds like he's not being very reasonable..

**deep_fear** · 05-02-2011 08:57 AM

ya you should read my post on the other form relashionships...he is deff not resonable....and I can't change what he thinks sadly..he just tells me that im stubren and dont like to lisen to his ideas..even if hid ideas mean pain for 2 hrs lol....yesterday he also said..if i go to the wedding in flates I will be a child around woman....so its either start a stupid fight or wear the heels...im going to bring heels and flates...he tells me the doctore didnt do a good enouph job on my surgary anyway and i should get another one...lol can u belive this?...I cant and i live with him..

**KMonte85** · 05-02-2011 10:17 AM

Your fiance is mistaken. There is no rule that women must wear heels to a wedding, it does not make them any less feminine (as he seems to think).

You've had surgery on your feet, why is he being so unreasonable? And why is he SO preoccupied with women's formal footwear? If he was aware of women's fashion trends, he would know that there are many beautiful flat options that are appropriate to wear for formal events. Even the snobbiest of fashionistas will admit that flats are "in" right now.

This is his preference, and his preference alone. It has nothing to do with being a child or a woman, and everything to do with him just wanting you to do as he says. Find a lovely pair of flat shoes that are comfortable and stylish, and let him be huffy about it. He'll get over your shoe choice faster than your feet would get over being crammed in a pair of uncomfortable heels for hours.

**deep_fear** · 05-03-2011 01:18 AM

I totaly agree I would love to tell him off and say that im wearing these shoes and thats it...Its tempting...infact I told him what you all suggested..I asked him whats more important me being in pain in heels or me being comfy....but he says im just being studren and dont want to wear them justy becasue he asked me to...so he thinks im just being a for not wanting to wear them

...thats why i gave in and said ill try heels...I dont want him to think I can't be resonable...he also told me that " You CAN wear heels you just dont want to"....that got me thinking maybe he is right..I guess if i really wanted to i could..i just dont want to..one becasue of the pain in my foot and two Its just not me...But im still thinking about it..im not going the shop yet..just look around to see what feels good.