Should I Go On Birth Control?

**summer16** · 12-03-2009 04:49 PM

I am 16 years old and no, I'm not a you know what, talking about birth control at my age, but because of my period.
I am having horribly heavy periods for months at a time, then no period for several months at a time, and it's getting rediculous. Right now I am going on 4 months on my period.
Everyone (even my doctor) says birth control is understandable at my age for this reason to help shed excess blood in my uterus, get my regular, and normal flow.
I haven't actually went to a gyno before in my life, but my mum had the same problem and had surgery done to have her uterus cleaned because she had been on hers for 6 months straight.
Every time I bring up my period and how long I have been on it, she never really says anything and hasn't brought up the fact of taking me to the gyno. I really want to, as uncomfortable as it will be, just so I can do normal things like laugh, walk, and other things without blood clots and feeling like I am peeing on myself.
I don't know if she thinks that if I go on birth control, I will start having sex, because I won't, but I don't know why she won't do anything.
Yes, I have a boyfriend who is 18 and we have been dating for a year and a half, but we haven't had sex. I don't think I am ready and don't want to anyways. Yes, we have done "other things" but I don't want to have sex.

Any ways of bringing up taking me to the gyno to my mum and reasons I can tell her of WHY I should go on birth control for this?
Thanks!

**x.st.angel.x** · 12-03-2009 04:57 PM

Well sweet it sounds like you definately need birth control to regulate your period. 4 months straight is uncomfortable im sure! Try explain to your mum how its making you feel for example: 4 months straight is uncomfortable and feeling like you are peeing yourself.

Try your best to explain how you feel and how its making you feel. Dont bring up sex though, i suggest only talk about your period. I do think you should be on the pill regardless especially if you have started fooling around, even if you dont plan to have sex for a very long time, spontaneous things may happen.

As i said though, i wouldnt bring up sex when talking to your mum just focus on your period.

Good luck

**sourpuss** · 12-03-2009 06:37 PM

agreed. You need to do something. Is there a planned parenthood where you live? You can make an appointment there and get an exam and speak to a nurse who can help you decide which birth control may help your situation the most. But you are right, you need to do something so you can have a normal life. Of course, talking to your mom about it would be your first try, but if she's uncomfortable with it, take charge of your body and go to the clinic yourself.

good luck

**Cloudnine** · 12-03-2009 08:28 PM

when i was 17 i could handle my period the cramping was unbearable and my period was super heavy, but of course this doesn't compare to what your going through. i couldn't imagine! talking to my mother about birth control was awkward and shes very closed minded. so when i brought it up she said no automatically without even listening to me. take matters into your own hand and talk to your doctor or a doctor about your options. if you want birth control then i would get it. i got it without my mother knowing, and my life has been a whole lot better

**Mes T** · 12-03-2009 08:33 PM

I went on birth control as a teen for this exact same reason, and it was well worth it, and of course it didn't make me spontaneously have sex either.

Try talking to your mom, maybe make a list of all the points you want to make and use it for reference so you can manage to say everything you need to. (When I had to talk to my parents about certain things, they'd unfortunately make me so nervous/ashamed that I'd forget what the heck I was trying to say in the first place and they'd win the argument.

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And yes if that doesn't work, I agree you should take charge and go yourself, or maybe find another adult if you need to. There's no reason why YOU need to suffer these periods just because your mom might have the wrong ideas about some things.

**pinkdynamite** · 12-04-2009 02:52 PM

Originally Posted by sourpuss

Is there a planned parenthood where you live? You can make an appointment there and get an exam and speak to a nurse who can help you decide which birth control may help your situation the most. But you are right, you need to do something so you can have a normal life. Of course, talking to your mom about it would be your first try, but if she's uncomfortable with it, take charge of your body and go to the clinic yourself.

I agree with Sourpuss. If you're comfortable talking with your mom about it, then definitely explain the reasons why you think going on the pill would help. Maybe your mom would be interested in going to the clinic with you? Perhaps she has doubts or is unsure of the reasons why you want to go on the pill, and talking with a healthcare professional could help ease her doubts.

I had a similar situation with heavy, irregular periods when I was younger. If there is a Planned Parenthood where you live it may be worthwhile to check out. They offer vaginal exams there, as well as give prescriptions and sell the pill for a discounted price. I ended up going to one myself and getting on the pill that way (without my parents knowing, I'll admit) because I was too afraid of what my mom would think if she knew I was on birth control.

If you present this to your mom as a medical issue and not an I-want-to-be-on-the-pill-so-I-can-have-sex issue, which as you've stated is not something you're ready to do right now, then your mom should have no reason not to take it seriously. If she's been through the same situation herself, then she should be able to recognize that it's a major problem for you and be sympathetic to your wanting to find a solution. If she is concerned about you having sex, then tell her what you told us: that you're not ready. She'll have to respect that.

Sorry for the long post, but as a future Registered Nurse (4 months!) I felt I needed to put my two cents worth in.