Thread: Birth control for college?

Long distance relationships are painful and in most cases, an awful shadow of what a relationship should be, meant to be a short-term solution to a distance problem.
On top of that, you will probably be changing and growing a great deal while in college. If you don't learn and grow, then something is wrong! It's unlikely that you and the boy you met will grow in the same direction.
If you feel like you want to have sex - DO IT! If somebody wants to call you slutty, tell them where they can put it. Surely, some people respect virgins, but it should be because they're being true to themselves and doing what they feel is right, not because those people thing that sex is a dirty thing. Sex is a healthy component of human relationships.
I assume from your first few posts that you feel like sex is a healthy activity that you might want to engage in sometime soon. I don't see any problem with that, especially since you're willing to carry condoms and investigate hormonal BC to protect yourself. Therefore, I have only three words for you:
YOU GO GIRL!

Thankyou very much Little! I'm glad to see that you understand where i'm coming from. It makes me feel better
Yes, the distance thing would be quite hard.. If we had already been dating for a long time, I would possibly do the long-distance. Luckily, I haven't been. Although it sort of sucks to meet someone I feel really compatible with before school, I am glad we are not trying to force it or anything because I want to have the full college experience. I don't want to be held back.
& yes, I do think sex is a healthy activity! Not meaning doing it with a bunch of people, but I do want to experience it soon.
Thanks for all your advice and understanding (:

Originally Posted by Little

Long distance relationships are painful and in most cases, an awful shadow of what a relationship should be, meant to be a short-term solution to a distance problem.
On top of that, you will probably be changing and growing a great deal while in college. If you don't learn and grow, then something is wrong! It's unlikely that you and the boy you met will grow in the same direction.
If you feel like you want to have sex - DO IT! If somebody wants to call you slutty, tell them where they can put it. Surely, some people respect virgins, but it should be because they're being true to themselves and doing what they feel is right, not because those people thing that sex is a dirty thing. Sex is a healthy component of human relationships.
I assume from your first few posts that you feel like sex is a healthy activity that you might want to engage in sometime soon. I don't see any problem with that, especially since you're willing to carry condoms and investigate hormonal BC to protect yourself. Therefore, I have only three words for you:
YOU GO GIRL!

Thankyou very much Little! I'm glad to see that you understand where i'm coming from. It makes me feel better
Yes, the distance thing would be quite hard.. If we had already been dating for a long time, I would possibly do the long-distance. Luckily, I haven't been. Although it sort of sucks to meet someone I feel really compatible with before school, I am glad we are not trying to force it or anything because I want to have the full college experience. I don't want to be held back.
& yes, I do think sex is a healthy activity! Not meaning doing it with a bunch of people, but I do want to experience it soon.
Thanks for all your advice and understanding (:

Originally Posted by chaya

You could maintain a long distance relationship with your new guy and see each other at school breaks.

You have a choice on how and when you "lose it", I didn't I was raped. If you remain a virgin in college, you will gain the respect of the other students, girls and guys alike. But, when the word gets out some guys will try to use you as their trophy.

I'm very sorry to hear that Chaya. Yes, you are right- I will probably be respected if I do. I don't think that would be something everyone would need to know though. Like, I don't think being a virgin would be something everyone would know about me. Colleges are big places. I think being a virgin is a good thing, as well as bad. Bad because I want the experience & to hopefully feel pleasure, but good because it is respected. Unfortunately, some people think it is weird for someone to be a virgin at my age. You are right though, I'm lucky to have the choice. I will do it when I feel comfortable.