kate119

I don't know how to handle this situation. She has always said hateful remarks about my parents and about me over the past few years since my brother's passing. It always revolved around money or material things. She would get very angry if she thought my parents were helping me out in any way. She would pick fights with me about it and stop speaking to me for mths at a time without knowing all the facts. She and my brother have a son and I have a daughter, the two of them were very close. It was hard on both of them. My daughter didn't understand why she couldn't see her cousin. I started to resent her for that.
Things came to a head a few months ago when I told her how I felt. She doesn't want to see me and she doesn't want me to see her son. I honestly don't want to see her eithier after what she has but me through. She would say hateful things to me in front of my daughter. This Christmas will be the first time the kids won't get to celebrate it together. She keeps calling and leaving hateful messages. I don't know how to deal with the type of person she is. It's now aimed at my parents. Her additude is do things my way or they will never see their grandson. How do I not let her effect me so? It's like her main goal in life is to hurt me and my parents. It seems she always has to have chaos. It is hard but I have accepted I won't be a part of my newfew's life.