WildChild

I can't accept that having no sexual desire is healthy or normal. All creatures have a built in drive to reproduce. Humans are fortunate in that we can experience great pleasure from the sexual act and can become aroused at any time not just when in heat. So far as I am aware there is only one other mammal that has this capability. Sex is a huge part of our bonding and we need bonding and touch to be healthy individuals. Many women who dress and act in very sexualized ways are in fact non responsive ...

I know we've gone into this before and it may or may not apply but it bears repeating since we have new readers/posters all the time. One of the most self defeating things a man can do when the sexual relationship is nonexistant to iffy, is to do or plan something with the expectation it will lead to sex, this works fine with a responsive woman but not an unresponsive one.

I think there are a limited range of possible causes of a woman being or becoming unresponsive sexually:
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I often think about the choices people make, the choices I've made, often poor choices. In retrospect, actually in some cases even at the time, better options are clear but not taken. People will chose what is less convienient, less safe, less attractive, more difficult but which provides no offsetting gain at all.

I have a clear example of this with snow. The buildings I live in have two sets of outside stairs. One set stays very protected from the weather, these stairs are always ...

I'm going to explore some thoughts here. Maybe I'm very unusual but I don't really think so. I haven't always enjoyed sex but recognised early on that it was a combination of technique and emotional or mental state (mine). Based on what I've read (and I read extensively) and have experienced, I'm just a couple years from 40 years of being sexually active, I think that just about any healthy woman should be able to enjoy sex. Granted someone with a hormone imbalance or some other health issues simply ...

Thoughts can come at the oddest times. Sitting in an empty room tapping at a scraper with a hammer can actually be a good time to think, it's mindless, repetitive activity. What came to my mind recently was the people we get into relationships with and who we and they bring into it. We all come with family and freinds, maybe children, but I'm not talking about that. How many relationships have you been in where it's you, them and their anger? Or the two of you and one or both of your ex's, that ...