...by John Bradshaw.

I had to tell you all about this amazing book because I believe it could help so many of us in one way or another.

Too many of us have 'childhood issues' of some kind which affect our adult lives in ways we cannot always understand. Most anti-social/dysfunctional behaviour is caused by something that has happened to us during childhood and all too often we grow up unaware that we haven't really grown in the true sense, rather we become 'stuck' at the age we were when whatever it was took place. It could be a single incident or a whole childhood of abuse (not always 'obvious' abuse) but when we realise that there is a reason why we are the way we are as adults we can start to heal our inner child. Whether you think you have any 'issues' yourself, or would like to develop more of an understanding of someone in your life, please read this book.

We hear about so many "bad" people in the world, like murderers, robbers, sex offenders etc but do you ever think about how they became to be that way? What was it that turned these adorable innocent little children into "bad" people? I think without exception you could go right back to their childhood and find the cause. That doesn't always make these people 'likeable' or their crimes 'acceptable' but it's good to understand the reasons behind the behaviour.

If these offenders were aware that they are the product of bad programming in childhood, maybe they would be more open to accepting help to change their behaviour.

I feel really passionate about the subject of psychology and child abuse, and read as much as I can on the subject. This book makes so much sense and EVERYONE should read it!

Psychology in itself is an A-mazing field of study

Which is why I made it my major

That's great! So what do you think? Have you read the book? Do you agree with anything I wrote?

Abuse, un-loved, many children suffer I agree. Abusers don't always turn out to be abusers pending I think on what else that they had in their life growing up. If they were constantly abused say by a male, their Father, then their Mother took over, they wouldn't necessarily see that their Mother is an Abuser, because all that they really recall, deep down inside somewhere is the hatred of a "man", so the "woman" is okay, yet she's not at all.

Un-loved, can send children into a little shell, hard to come out of, they become introverted, study everything, stay in-doors. They can also seek love and attention, and get themselves into trouble, whilst they are constantly searching for love... Even Murdered through naievity all for the sake of looking for love.

I used to read Ann Rule books. I haven't read the one you are referring to but it does sound interesting, as Psychology is also something that I have studied and love.

Her books, some, were pure Evil. My interest was trying to ascertain WHY? Why the person did what they did? One book was so disgusting however, i did read it until the end, but it has stayed in the back of my mind for life.... He was a gardener and lured the 10 year old girl... 5 years later, he wrote to the parents, anonymously excepting they still had his handwriting from before... He claimed and was found out to be correct, that he roasted the little girls body parts, and ate them... Pure Evil. In viewing his background he was abused sexually by a male, his father, as well as physical abuse of torture...

I think some people will say it's in their genes. I tend to think people snap, they are weak, prayed upon over and over and then snap...

CW

I haven't read the book yet, once i'll get the chance i'll try to grab it from the library. And I do agree with you, a lot of the topics we talk about in psychology stem from childhood issues.

Some wither from it and because a better person while others will succumb to abusive actions they had gone through. I will have to read this book though it's intriguing