Thread: New Member...Please Help don't know what to do

I read all the original thread and all the replies to this point.
I have to agree with Chandler BIG TIME .

Its funny how things work in life and so many people have the same or similar problems and can give out great advice but not take it when given to themselves.
I can relate to alot of the original post. As I was dating this one woman who I do care about and love to this day. But early on in our relationship about one month into it, I was ata friends house helping transferring things from one computer to another. When I was finished, I text my ex to say I was finished and wanted to know if she wanted to something after I got home. Her first words were, "There you are, I thought you forgot about me". This after I already called her in the morning to say hello, and had a few texts during the day.
Needless to say, I am going to agree with Chanlders first response in her whole entire answer/reply.

Happy(M) , I am sorry but i disagree with you for saying she did nothing wrong. She did do things wrong. She did not let him sleep, hounded if he didn't call when she wanted him too, and then to add to that she ignored him to try to teach him a lesson.
Would you, or anyone want to be kept on a scheduel like that and get b1tched at if your less than 30 minutes late? Other than that statement I do agree with you for the most part.

As for anyone who says he wants a way out, doesn't want to be with her, or is to nice of a guy............ well noone can really say that, as they only hear one side. And you are not him, and you are just assumeing.

We all get hurt, we all go through things. Sometime we have to go through the we do but there is a reason even if it doesn't make sence and we get hurt bad. Its a shame but it happens.

Clippies , you first need to step back a few steps and let him breathe. If he calls he will. He always answered your texts, called you back, and helped you out. he does care, nice guy or not he was there for you.

So many women copmplain they want drama free, someone who is there for them, someone who cares and so on................. the endless list, LOL.
From what you wrote, you got all of what you women say you want and yet you created the drama yourself.

I don't want to sound harsh but you did ask and you did creat it with your hounding him on his calls to you. If you were to live with him he would be so scared if he was 10 minutes late, due to traffic or maybe even talking to someone if he stopped at the deli and said hello to a friend. You need to control your thoughts and feeling more about certain things and trust, communicate, and understand a bit more.

Guys are different than women and it a proven fact. But we aren't all that bad. And you women control the game and can change the rules all the time and when you want. And we will always be lost or in the dark b/c of that one reason alone. So us guys are as so many women say b/c we are lost as what you want all the time. LOL.

Keep your chin up and give it time. We are all here for you and believe in your heart. Your heart matters most. You have friends here as one in particular is a great friend of mine and I cherish her as she a wonderful women. (You know who you are, ). Keep faith, and smile clippie.