Thread: Is this cheating

Ok, I'm sorry but I just can't imagine being in bed with my female friend while I have an SO,
To me it just seems unnatural, I'm certainly not trying to hurt anyone.

JWB, No1 - I would hope you feel the same way deep down - you seem to, but like most everyone else it's has to be laid out on the table, 10-4

Originally Posted by JWB_pof

all replies are great ones, and each made valid points.
2 things stand out to me and they are:

1- you are not cheating, but things should change/stop. depending how you cuddle, you may want to change that just a bit, you know lower it down a notch & stop sleeping in the same bed. although you are innocently just sleeping, it can lead to impure thoughts from both you and your b/f and may cause a bit of trouble.

2- great question was asked, how would you like it if your boyfriend slept with his best female friend.

one thing i learned and that was to ask yourself the question you may be asking someone else. this usually (but not always) will answer your own question.

I agree with JWB, its not cheating because cheating means you're being deceitful. if those are your intentions then you're cheating. But, i would say that it is not appropriate. If you're in a commited relationship with another person, you cannot be physical like that with others. It's just not right. I understand we have affection we show eachother, especially as friends, but casual physical affection like that should be turned down a notch and things should change, Especially if you two consider yourselves very serious for eachother. i know i wouldnt like to find my GF cuddled up with another man and i would never do that to my GF. Like JWB, i would say turn the question onto your self and see what you would think if he did that too.