imported_carrie06

hey all,
i have been on here before seeking similar advice for my confusing boyfriend. we have been together for over 3 years and we have a great relationship, we compliment each other well, we laugh all the time, we respect each other, trust each other and are still very attracted to each other........however, he moved to Chicago a month ago and we are doing the long distance thing. I am still a student right now, albeit a part time distance (Masters level one, so i can go wherever i want).......it's almost impossible to get a job in my field in my town, so i have been looking in chicago and illinois in general......but he tells me not to limit myself to just there....he even suggests places further away from him where he heard there were jobs.......i am confused because i don't know where his head is .....one minute i feel like we are on track, he can't wait to see me, talk to me, be with me, and the next....i am asking what does he mean? why would we prolong the long distance if we did not have to......we are 26 years old? any thoughts?

imported_Nygirl5885

Perhaps he really wants you to be close to him in Chicago but maybe if he tells you that you will completely limit yourself to just that one location. Limiting your opportunities and who knows even knew life changing experiences. It might not be so much that he doesn't want to be in the relationship it might just be that he doesn't want to be a wall on the path of life. Or maybe if he was comfortable leaving then maybe you should get to his level of thinking. what i'm saying is in a way he is putting himself first. he's was thinking of what was best for him. in a way it seems that when it comes to the emotional part of the relationship you are a bit ahead of him. if he puts himself first why don't you do the same.

whatever he's thinking Good luck to you girl!

imported_kaylar

There is also the possibility that if you get a job in Hawaii he
will relocate.

If you were my friend I would tell you to scour the world to
find the absolutely best post available...whether in India,
Latvia, or Togo.

I would tell you to look about yourself. Forget about everyone
and everything, and go for the best future you can get.

If you get the plum job and he is willing to relocate to be
with you, then you know this is your other half. If he doesn't
well, let it go.

No sense fighting to get to Chicago where he can dump you.
He can dump you right here and now...
if that's his intention.

You have nothing to look about except yourself.
Make your best choice.

imported_eleni125

This is the time to invest in your career. Find the ideal job then the boyfiend will either follow or maybe he is not the one any longer.