Girlfriends past devistating me, she's slept with guy that raped by ex-fiance+33more

**sTyLeRock** · 12-11-2008 04:57 PM

Hey man,

i feel ur pain and i even got teary reading this and i'm at work.

guess wat mate, i'm number 34 for my girlfriend so number wise we're in same boat,

My girlfriend however has been raped over half a dozen times by diff people at diff times in her life. i don't include this number in the people she's slept with.

me and my girl are both fully into eachother and in love,

about 2 months into the relationship i was at ur point of Physically getting sick from the stress, breaking out in rashing and throwing up just from playing the movies in my head,
and the thing with the orgasm man did that up my mojo while having sex lol.

and even right now.. i still have issues with my girlfriend's past and i have read everything online regarding this issue.

and there is tons and tons of advice out there and most of it good, but none will take away the emptiness inside and the heavyness on your chest.

I have taken Hypnosis and learned some techniques in getting rid of emotions and putting w/e you like there.

may i suggest googling emo-free and put a .com at end since we can't link in this forum. this is EFT Techniques which are very effective and helped me alot.

and i also have a technique which will get rid of the movies in your head but it's something i'd have to speak directly to you about.

add my msn: stylerock818hotmail.com and we'll talk more.

Now that is a little bit of my story and ways to get through it but it is hard.

If i knew any of the guys who raped my girl, lord help him cuz he would not walk the next day. that's if i'm feeling generous.

and man for you to not do that, makes you a stronger man then myself so i know you can work through this is you really want to.

Also can i ask you a couple questions..

Is your girlfriends sex drive still high?

and have you noticed yourself being very jealous about her and interactions with any other guy?

but yeah hit me up on msn and shoot us a reply with answers on this thread,

-Daniel

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 12-21-2008 02:40 AM

Or, don't worry about the MSN bit, cause you seem to have vanished and just come back and tell us what your thoughts are so we can provide more answers.

CW

**moya angel** · 03-22-2009 01:26 PM

u never b able to trust er know how she can b wat about sti

**Hopeless Dork** · 03-22-2009 02:36 PM

All the feelings you have are normal, its normal to think about the person you love's pas and get uncomfortable thinking about the other people they we were with, etc.. esepcially if one of them is a person you despise.

But if you love her, if shes a great person despite her sexual past, you can learn to change the way you feel about everything. The mind is so powerful, you can choose to make yourself miserable over the biggest and littlest things or you can choose to enjoy the person she is today, how she treats and how she makes you feel.

As far as mister 'shes butter and spreads easy' is concerned - GROW UP.. ffs. If shes faithful now it would be more proper to keep the sexist, judgemental and childish phrases to a more accurate "she use to be butter and spreaD easy".

**kms** · 03-23-2009 12:14 PM

I second that the sexist, judgmental comments were inappropriate... one a month? That's pretty good for a lot of college girls I know who are hooking up every weekend at the clubs! But even if someone were having sex with different people even as much as once week, or even every day - who are you to make a value judgment? This is a lifestyle choice that they've made. We shouldn't judge them negatively for that or force our morals onto them. We should concern ourselves with living as best as we can according to our own morals, and let others decide for themselves what path they will follow.

Besides, I would agree with the other poster who stated that if she were a guy the perception surrounding her sexual activity would be completely different - she'd be given high fives and seen as a smooth, experienced player.

I think one issue the poster is struggling with is that his gf may see sex as something purely physical, while the poster sees sex more synonymous with love (although he was having casual, no-strings-attached sex too so he's just as guilty of it). A person's view on this issue can definitely make or break relationships if the partners don't agree on it. If you start to see her physical acts with others as 'just sex' and realize that she actually loves you (and sex is just ONE way to show your love by pleasuring them physically), all the stress and negative emotions may begin to simmer down and become more balanced.