Thread: fighting homosexuality

Ditto the previous posters.
One of my gay friends only wants to talk about being gay. He can't seem to understand that I am perfectly comfortable with him being gay - but I'm also not particularly interested (after the first few months when the admission was a big thing for him). It doesn't change my relationship with him at all, and there are more interesting things to talk about.

BTW, some parts of the country are much more accepting than others. I feel somewhat odd walking through the Castro district with someone of the opposite gender. <g>

Originally Posted by brandit87

.... a part that happens to be difficult to come to terms with for most people.

then shame on them!

I hate the connotation that usually accompanies the whole "coming to terms with" thing, it implies that it's wrong. now maybe you had to admit something to yourself that you weren't comfortable with admitting, but there's nothing to come to terms with. you are who you are and there's nothing wrong with it!

it's hard enough to find real love in this world. if you find it with someone, that's all that really matters.

I'm happy for you!

Good for you Brandi!!! One of the longest most grueling battles in life is to have to live your life denying how you feel. Remember, don't ever label yourself....because WHO you are has nothing to do with your sexual preference, your job, your home, etc. And don't play into the labels others try to place on you.
California comes to mind because of Prop 8. Anyone who has been or knows much about CA knows that being homosexual there is quite comfortable which is a great thing. BUT, I also see that there is complete segregation, most done by the homosexuals themselves. Many of the lesbians I know there, only have friends who are other lesbians or gay men. They only go to gay bars/clubs. They attend such events as "GAY DAY" at Disney. Or the Gay Pride events held in various areas where homosexuals parade on the streets. I'm a very free spirited accepting person, but I find myself in total disagreement with this behavior. In other words, don't seperate yourself if you don't want to be seperated. It's no more acceptable than white people have a WHITE IS RIGHT day only for white people.
And the other side of this is that in order to truly believe in equality and freedom, you must also remember that those who differ in their beliefs, are not bad people just because they disagree. Should never be taken to violence, hatred, etc.... but their opinions are just as valid as anyone elses. For instance, many who have strong belief in God also believe that God made us to reproduce therefore being gay is unnatural. And Im sure you'd agree that if it weren't for heterosexual people, we'd go extinct. So, what I'm trying to say is that you have to be firm in your position, love who you are, and be willing to respect the opinions of others as they are just as heartfelt as your own.

You sound like a level headed mature person and you can truly be a light for others who are going through what you have gone through. Embrace who you are, and be happy with it, and don't allow yourself to feel anger or hatred for those who disagree because you will most certainly experience adversity. Stand firm girl.