Thread: Difficulty in "complimenting" a woman

I love being told I am sexy and someone loves my curves...FROM MY BOYFRIEND WHO HAS SEEN ME NAKED!!! If someone said that to me at an art thing that I had just met, I don't think I would slap, but I would probably immediately forget about the ham I left in the oven.

You shouldn't say anything about her body until you are actually physical, or almost physical with her. Even if you call her "pretty" you are treading on some pretty thin ice. And it isn't that we don't want to be attractive or pretty, it's just that we are conditioned that men only want one thing, and immediately reach for the pepper spray if we think they are going to try to take it (even though we wear skirts, heels, makeup, v-necks with lots of clevage, and so on).

Appreciate her body, but keep your thoughts to yourself until you have earned the right to touch it, make mental notes. And next time you feel like you have to comment on the hourglass figure, try doing a comparitive compliment like "Has anyone ever told you that you look like...." and fill in the blank with an icon like Bettie Page or Marilyn, it's a safer way to go about it