work stresses him out. and its affecting me

**yellowpiXi3** · 02-03-2009, 09:32 PM

my bf is really stressed out at work.

i try to be there for him, giving him back rubs when he wants, or when i feel he needs it; cook, play video games etc... but sometimes i feel that he doesn't want me there when he's really stressed out. am i doing something wrong?

i don't force myself on him. i try to understand and give him space when he needs it. i just feel sometimes that he doesn't want to share that part of his life with me. he says he wants to hangout but he can't because there's just too many things going on. i feel like he doesn't want me there because i might add more to his problems. when i just want to be there for him.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-04-2009, 03:54 AM

Stop feeling in-secure, go with the flow.

If he is stressed out, then he is stressed out.. Your trying to please him to "want you" not to please him to help him and in return you get paranoid.

Also if you are too clingy some guys tend to go WT, and take time out for themselves, they want a woman with confidence, knows it's not them , nothing wrong with them, just say love you and move away.

Let him be.

He will soon come to you wondering where you are.... at....

CW

**WildChild** · 02-04-2009, 05:58 AM

Don't do too much, I have a bad habit of that too. It can put you in mother mode and mother isn't sexy. He's a big boy, go have some fun, when he's tired of being tired he'll probably come find you.

**yellowpiXi3** · 02-04-2009, 10:03 AM

CW: wow. i totally didn't think of it like that.

thanks all for putting me back in a reality check.

**anonymouswhitefemale** · 02-04-2009, 11:11 AM

When stressed, space is good. To be honest, if I'm stressed out, I just want to be left alone. And if you want to be alone and some girl is stroking you, vying for your attention (which you don't want to give), then there is another source of stress in how you can make her leave you alone without causing a fight (ie more stress).

Just let him be, and offer copious blowjobs.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-04-2009, 02:24 PM

Man, I sounded harsh????

Ooops...

But hey..... You read it and saw something within yourself that made sense hey..

Good luck... I guess I understand the words "work stress".... lol.

CW

**yellowpiXi3** · 02-04-2009, 03:52 PM

sure, it may be harsh. but im the type of person that needs that from time to time. and to be honest i can be harsh at times when i give advice as well.

its kind of like..."hello!, snap out of it."

so thank you!

**yellowpiXi3** · 02-04-2009, 03:54 PM

Just let him be, and offer copious blowjobs.

thanks. i'll keep that in mind.

02-03-2009, 09:32 PM	#1
yellowpiXi3 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: californication Posts: 331 Blog Entries: 11	work stresses him out. and its affecting me my bf is really stressed out at work. i try to be there for him, giving him back rubs when he wants, or when i feel he needs it; cook, play video games etc... but sometimes i feel that he doesn't want me there when he's really stressed out. am i doing something wrong? i don't force myself on him. i try to understand and give him space when he needs it. i just feel sometimes that he doesn't want to share that part of his life with me. he says he wants to hangout but he can't because there's just too many things going on. i feel like he doesn't want me there because i might add more to his problems. when i just want to be there for him.

02-04-2009, 03:54 AM	#2
CHANDLERS WISH WH Head Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 12,672 Blog Entries: 8	Stop feeling in-secure, go with the flow. If he is stressed out, then he is stressed out.. Your trying to please him to "want you" not to please him to help him and in return you get paranoid. Also if you are too clingy some guys tend to go WT, and take time out for themselves, they want a woman with confidence, knows it's not them , nothing wrong with them, just say love you and move away. Let him be. He will soon come to you wondering where you are.... at.... CW __________________ Women are Angels And when someone breaks our wings.... We simply continue to fly.........on a broomstick... We are flexible like that .... White Witch. Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

02-04-2009, 02:24 PM	#6
CHANDLERS WISH WH Head Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 12,672 Blog Entries: 8	Man, I sounded harsh???? Ooops... But hey..... You read it and saw something within yourself that made sense hey.. Good luck... I guess I understand the words "work stress".... lol. CW __________________ Women are Angels And when someone breaks our wings.... We simply continue to fly.........on a broomstick... We are flexible like that .... White Witch. Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

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02-04-2009, 05:58 AM	#3
WildChild WH Moderator Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 8,699 Blog Entries: 6	Don't do too much, I have a bad habit of that too. It can put you in mother mode and mother isn't sexy. He's a big boy, go have some fun, when he's tired of being tired he'll probably come find you.

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yellowpiXi3 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: californication Posts: 331 Blog Entries: 11	CW: wow. i totally didn't think of it like that. thanks all for putting me back in a reality check.

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anonymouswhitefemale May 2008 "Poster of the Month" Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,479 Blog Entries: 2	When stressed, space is good. To be honest, if I'm stressed out, I just want to be left alone. And if you want to be alone and some girl is stroking you, vying for your attention (which you don't want to give), then there is another source of stress in how you can make her leave you alone without causing a fight (ie more stress). Just let him be, and offer copious blowjobs.

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yellowpiXi3 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: californication Posts: 331 Blog Entries: 11	sure, it may be harsh. but im the type of person that needs that from time to time. and to be honest i can be harsh at times when i give advice as well. its kind of like..."hello!, snap out of it." so thank you!

02-04-2009, 03:54 PM	#8
yellowpiXi3 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: californication Posts: 331 Blog Entries: 11	Just let him be, and offer copious blowjobs. thanks. i'll keep that in mind.