Thread: My boyfriend doesn't turn me on... help!

i think that you really do need to look into counseling for yourself. it is not healthy for you to be so dependent on your bf. you need to love yourself first! tell your man that you need some time away ( like a month or 2 with no contact!) seek counseling, then re-evaluate the situation. you are not breaking up with him, just give yourself some space. You never know, you might surprise yourself with how well you do without him!!

Originally Posted by lovemyself1

tell your man that you need some time away ( like a month or 2 with no contact!) seek counseling, then re-evaluate the situation. you are not breaking up with him, just give yourself some space. You never know, you might surprise yourself with how well you do without him!!

I think this is a good idea. Have you found out if he is definately married yet or not? Its been a little while since you started this thread. Let me tell you something. Before I had my son, I was never single. However, once I got pregnant with him, I was with his 'sperm donor' for over a year. I only stayed with him to have someone. I THOUGHT that he was there for me and I THOUGHT that he took care of me. BUT, the truth is, looking back at the diary entries I had posted on my online thing, I was unhappy. I just felt like I should stay in that relationship. I am so glad that I got out. I didnt not feel comfortable having sex with him. I didnt not LIKE kissing him after I got pregnant. , I didnt even want to hold his HAND! After we broke up, I stayed single for almost two years. I had the best time just hanging out with my sisters and my son. No one to answer to, nobody that I had to BEG for a little bit of money, no one to STRESS ME OUT. That was EXACTLY what my relationship was with that guy. Maybe I didnt want to have sex with him because I knew he'd be a terrible father. Who knows. BUT, now, I am with a guy that I have known since High School and we were friends for a long time before we started dating. We were friends before my son was even thought of. Andrew has truely been here for me through a lot. More than any man ever has. I may g through periods when I dont want to hav sex but Im sure every woman who gets stressed out about things does.
Anyway, what I am trying to say is, if I can leave that sperm donor who hardly gave me the time of day and always griped about me spending money on things for MY son, then you can lose that guy and find someone MUCH better! I found my guy. Go find your true guy.