Thread: My boyfriend doesn't turn me on... help!

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

What do you mean, you would not trust anyone to look after you the way he does?

Do you think it's the attention, care, gifts, meals what ever it is he showers you with that you like and as such, this is why you are in the relationship?

You are basically stating, that you never , ever found him sexually attractive, you never lusted after him, and your love sounds more of that for a friend that spoils you than it does, a relationship.

CW

Well I did find him attractive in that I really like the idea of kissing him and enjoyed it the first couple of times. But I don't like it now, he always tries to stick his tongue down my throat. It's horrible and it makes me panic and I feel I can't get away when he puts his hands on the back of my head.

He doesn't buy me presents and he has never taken me out for a meal. I don't like that kind of thing. But he does look after me and protect me. I am a very shy and anxious person and I need him by my side or I cannot do anything. I have been used by men in the past so I find it difficult to talk to men or trust them. But I completely trust my boyfriend. I think this is partly because he is older than me so I trust him to make the right decisions for me.

Is there a viagra equivalent for women that can make me turned on for him? I don't know what to do and I so badly want to give him what he wants.

Sorry I meant to write that I really liked the idea of kissing him, when I thought about it before we actually kissed for the first time. So I found that attractive, if that makes sense?

Originally Posted by ThexMrs

I don't want to come across rude but it seems like you are with him for the comfort. He takes care of you and you love that. That's not fair to him though. You have to have the sexual intimacy. It's a big part of relationships. Obviously this isn't going to change for you. You said that you have NEVER been attracted to him physically. I don't see it changing though it would be great if it did. I'm sure you don't want to hurt him but in a way, the lying is. He just doesn't know the truth.

Well I have told him that sex hurts me and I don't like it but he still asks me to do it and I do. Even if I don't let him touch me I always make sure I make him come every time that I see him, just not with penetration. I think that is as fair as I can make it. Last time we tried to have sex it hurt so much I just burst into tears, I couldn't help it. I don't want to hurt him.

I am just worried that my body won't let me have sex with him because of the age gap between us (18 years) even though I want to. I love this man and I will do anything for him to love me in return.

I care for him too. I always cook him nice meals and I would like to buy him presents but I don't know what men like!