i like a gay/bi guy and i need some help

**NoDenialHere** · 06-23-2007 03:23 PM

Why can women be bisexual, but men HAVE to be gay?

There seems to be a huge disconnect in peoples minds. Bi-sexual does not equal gay. Yes, being gay includes homosexuality. But "gay" is more than who you like to have sex with. Gay involves the desire to love and love one of the same sex. Homosexual means you like to touch and be touched by only another of the same sex. Bisexual = like to be with anyone. When it comes down to it, oral sex is oral sex...does it matter if it is a guys tongue or a girls tongue? If you were blindfolded and someone was going down on you, you would enjoy it. Only when you know it is someone of the same sex, when you "think" about it instead of just feeling, does it suddenly become an issue.

Some of the most committed people in relationships I know are bisexual (men and women). My husband and I are bisexual and we have been married for over 15 years, have 3 kids and are totally in love. He is only "orally bi", i.e., he likes oral sex with guys, but only has intercourse with women. (Yes, we are swingers.) He is repulsed by the idea of anal sex (giving or receiving.) Just as I enjoy being with, but in no way would fall in love with a woman, he likes men but loves me. To us, sex is sex, love is love and they are 2 separate things. Haven't you ever had sex with someone that you knew there was no chance in **** you would ever (or would ever want to) fall in love with...you just enjoyed the sex?

**NoDenialHere** · 06-23-2007 03:24 PM

Sorry for double post

**Orallybi** · 11-24-2007 10:45 PM

You fully understand and are my kind of couple..

I'd sure love to be as lucky and happy as you both are.

I need a bi girl to join me in the lifestyle and be a loving couple
maybe even have a family and a life that can be full of love
and sexual energy we both can enjoy.

Not to mention some very nice special friends like you.

**Lucky** · 11-26-2007 04:38 AM

This is my first post here. I've been lurking

for awhile. I want to say thank you to NoDenialHere for your post. My SO and I have been together 4 years and are like you and your husband. We are both open and honest with each other about everything. It's wonderful to have a honest relationship. Does not seem to be many of "us" around. Again, thank for your post.

**Orallybi** · 11-26-2007 06:05 AM

It feels so natural.. I love how it makes a woman feel so excited too.

The naturalness of sharing that with a woman is incredible... and very
erotic and sensual. Bi women know what I mean... and bi couples
are often the happiest people.

I'd sure enjoy meeting a bi lady or couple.

**HURT&CONFUSED** · 09-18-2008 11:11 PM

You have to do what makes you happy but I will tell you from experience as everyone here knows. The love of my life is bi and he has always maintained relationships with women by choice and we were supposed to get married and everything but there is that bi part of him that draws him to certain lifestyles, friends, addictions etc. It can be dangerous so please be careful and just protect your heart and your body. Bi guys are awesome cause they are so in touch with their sexuality so to speak but it has more than one side and you might not always be able to keep your feelings so simple down the road especially while going through your divorce with him in your life. Be careful all of it just hurts and fun is fun until it is no longer fun anymore. Good luck

**anonymouswhitefemale** · 09-19-2008 05:07 AM

HURT&CONFUSED, I know this is an issue close to you, but the last post in this thread was written over 9 months ago, none of the posters will read what you've written.

In future, check the date on any old thread you post in....

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 09-20-2008 04:00 AM

Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale

HURT&CONFUSED, I know this is an issue close to you, but the last post in this thread was written over 9 months ago, none of the posters will read what you've written.

In future, check the date on any old thread you post in....

I appreciate the "old threads" you appreciate it is close to her..

So, HURT&CONFUSED, you are searching still for answers, and good for you, you are looking at threads that may relate.

Just no point in answering if it's old, cause Anon is saying they won't return to answer.

Actually, embarrasing, lol, I thought it was your thread and these people posted on your thread, send messages to Admin, and all, lol..

That is why Anon is saying, read by all means but don't post, I read so many in one day, that i got it wrong ahhh.

CW