Where do most people meet "the one" they end up with?

**Jerzeebabie04** · 03-31-2009, 07:33 PM

I'm almost 23 years old & some previous relationship has made me lose a lot of my confidence in myself, plus gain weight which made it even worse. I'm finally at a point where I'm ready to work on losing the weight & hoping that it will bring me out of my shell so I wont be so shy anymore & so I will have confidence again.
But I've been single now for the past 3 years & even though some people have liked me in between we just didnt click right. I'm the type of person who just feels it within the first half hour to an hour of hanging & talking with someone... I can just feel if we click right or not. I've only clicked right with a few people in the past 3 years, all of who just wanted to mess around & nothing more.
I just want to be in a serious relationship again, have someone who cares about me the way I care about them. My friends & I have both been single for a longg time & feel that we have a lot to offer a guy, but have a hard time meeting guys. I was just curious to find out where most people have met their husbands at?

**withered_rose** · 03-31-2009, 09:48 PM

it surprises most people when I say this but I met my fiance on-line. lol its something that my family is not too thrilled about but I am happy. I wish you luck love, your man is out there, it just takes time.

**rcoreyus** · 03-31-2009, 11:08 PM

I met my wife in college -she lived down the hall from me in the dorm. Friends of mine have met their spouses (or equivelent): In high school, At work, Online dating service, through other friends. So - I guess there are lots of ways to meet people.

Nikitamarya23 · 04-01-2009, 12:03 AM

I think the best thing to do is to not look for a guy at all. When you stop looking, that's when they always seem to come to you.

**Jerzeebabie04** · 04-01-2009, 04:04 AM

Thanks all for responding! I hope Mr Right finds me soon!! lol

sm0kx · 04-01-2009, 05:11 AM

You really can't predict when it might happen, let alone where. Take me for example, the guy I've fallen for and who fell for me was my friend for over two years and I didn't feel anything for him. We met on MySpace of all places, he contacted me. He lived just 10 minutes away from me. In fact he was annoying, because he liked me a LOT and seemed suffocatingly flirty at times, more annoying because I'd come out of an emotionally abusive relationship but was still into the other guy, who'd abandoned me several times.

Got over the ex, started talking to this guy again (having shunned him for something he said about why the ex probably left me). Suddenly out of nowhere I began seeing things in this guy that lead to me developing romantic feelings for him. I remember saying to our mutual friend "Stranger things have happened" and she replied "No no, they really, really haven't. ._." XD

**Hopeless Dork** · 04-01-2009, 05:55 AM

Can be anywhere at any time so the best thing to do is get yourself out of the house as much as possible. Take up some activities that put you in a position to be social. You don't have to be seeking when you are out and around but the more you are the more opportunities you are giving people to get to know you better.

I use to sit at home, alone.. no guy in my life didnt really want one. I'd have guys hit on me here or there but I've never been comfortable being approached by strangers and I have never followed up on phone numbers given in that way etc.

I didn't go out looking for a guy... at all, but I did decide I needed to quit staying at home all day long and get out there and feel the air on my face and be around people more. And when I did met the most wonderful guy I've ever met, that would have never happened if I had continued just staying indoors all the time.

**happy ending** · 04-01-2009, 05:56 AM

mine was living next door, still does. i was just out of abusive marriage used to see him every so often, and one day i though wow he's gorgeous, it just developed from there.

**Jerzeebabie04** · 04-01-2009, 12:33 PM

thank you all, it is all very good advice. I've been thinking I need to get out more & meet more people, but am never sure what type of things I can join. Not sure of too many activities men & women both enjoy. I'm not good at playing sports so I know that wouldnt work. And I need activities that wont be too expensive.
smokx - see when a guy likes me too much & I dont feel that click I get soooo annoyed, like I probably end up being kind of mean too. Like they are bugging me b/c they like me & I just feel we are too different. But when I click right with someone, there is noo such things as them liking me too much. I like their attention & enjoy them wanting to be with me.

**caterpillar79** · 04-01-2009, 08:46 PM

JB04,

Mine was also via a dating site. I was dared by a friend to sign - up since I am an introvert. It took me about a year and a half to get into it, and when I did, I was surprised at the result. I was just fresh from the emotional called break-up and deceit...just recuperated and starting to enjoy the new ambiance of "outdoors", I signed up into that site, just posted some info about myself, no pics included. The very first email I got was very intellectual and it made me curious about the sender, so I replied. We clicked...after a week of email chat and IMs, we decided to meet in person. We liked the experience and started being friends, discovered our common interests and craziness, and the rest is history. We are exclusive now and committed to each other.

The bottomline is: DON'T LOOK, for it WILL find you. Be patient and enjoy your single blessedness, it won't last long, believe me!

03-31-2009, 07:33 PM	#1
Jerzeebabie04 VIP Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: New Jersey Posts: 95	Where do most people meet "the one" they end up with? I'm almost 23 years old & some previous relationship has made me lose a lot of my confidence in myself, plus gain weight which made it even worse. I'm finally at a point where I'm ready to work on losing the weight & hoping that it will bring me out of my shell so I wont be so shy anymore & so I will have confidence again. But I've been single now for the past 3 years & even though some people have liked me in between we just didnt click right. I'm the type of person who just feels it within the first half hour to an hour of hanging & talking with someone... I can just feel if we click right or not. I've only clicked right with a few people in the past 3 years, all of who just wanted to mess around & nothing more. I just want to be in a serious relationship again, have someone who cares about me the way I care about them. My friends & I have both been single for a longg time & feel that we have a lot to offer a guy, but have a hard time meeting guys. I was just curious to find out where most people have met their husbands at?

03-31-2009, 09:48 PM	#2
withered_rose Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: maryland Posts: 184	it surprises most people when I say this but I met my fiance on-line. lol its something that my family is not too thrilled about but I am happy. I wish you luck love, your man is out there, it just takes time. __________________ Before you criticise someone walk a mile in their shoes and then that way if they get angry they will be a mile away and barefoot

04-01-2009, 05:55 AM	#7
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 2,189	Can be anywhere at any time so the best thing to do is get yourself out of the house as much as possible. Take up some activities that put you in a position to be social. You don't have to be seeking when you are out and around but the more you are the more opportunities you are giving people to get to know you better. I use to sit at home, alone.. no guy in my life didnt really want one. I'd have guys hit on me here or there but I've never been comfortable being approached by strangers and I have never followed up on phone numbers given in that way etc. I didn't go out looking for a guy... at all, but I did decide I needed to quit staying at home all day long and get out there and feel the air on my face and be around people more. And when I did met the most wonderful guy I've ever met, that would have never happened if I had continued just staying indoors all the time. __________________ ------------- Defintion of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein

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03-31-2009, 11:08 PM	#3
rcoreyus March 2008 "Poster of the Month" Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,742	I met my wife in college -she lived down the hall from me in the dorm. Friends of mine have met their spouses (or equivelent): In high school, At work, Online dating service, through other friends. So - I guess there are lots of ways to meet people.

04-01-2009, 12:03 AM	#4
Nikitamarya23 Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 7	I think the best thing to do is to not look for a guy at all. When you stop looking, that's when they always seem to come to you.

04-01-2009, 04:04 AM	#5
Jerzeebabie04 VIP Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: New Jersey Posts: 95	Thanks all for responding! I hope Mr Right finds me soon!! lol

04-01-2009, 05:11 AM	#6
sm0kx Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 19	You really can't predict when it might happen, let alone where. Take me for example, the guy I've fallen for and who fell for me was my friend for over two years and I didn't feel anything for him. We met on MySpace of all places, he contacted me. He lived just 10 minutes away from me. In fact he was annoying, because he liked me a LOT and seemed suffocatingly flirty at times, more annoying because I'd come out of an emotionally abusive relationship but was still into the other guy, who'd abandoned me several times. Got over the ex, started talking to this guy again (having shunned him for something he said about why the ex probably left me). Suddenly out of nowhere I began seeing things in this guy that lead to me developing romantic feelings for him. I remember saying to our mutual friend "Stranger things have happened" and she replied "No no, they really, really haven't. ._." XD

04-01-2009, 05:56 AM	#8
happy ending Veteran Member (800+ posts & member 1 year+) Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: western australia Posts: 918	mine was living next door, still does. i was just out of abusive marriage used to see him every so often, and one day i though wow he's gorgeous, it just developed from there.

04-01-2009, 12:33 PM	#9
Jerzeebabie04 VIP Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: New Jersey Posts: 95	thank you all, it is all very good advice. I've been thinking I need to get out more & meet more people, but am never sure what type of things I can join. Not sure of too many activities men & women both enjoy. I'm not good at playing sports so I know that wouldnt work. And I need activities that wont be too expensive. smokx - see when a guy likes me too much & I dont feel that click I get soooo annoyed, like I probably end up being kind of mean too. Like they are bugging me b/c they like me & I just feel we are too different. But when I click right with someone, there is noo such things as them liking me too much. I like their attention & enjoy them wanting to be with me.

04-01-2009, 08:46 PM	#10
caterpillar79 WH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: MidWest, USA Posts: 2,826 Blog Entries: 59	JB04, Mine was also via a dating site. I was dared by a friend to sign - up since I am an introvert. It took me about a year and a half to get into it, and when I did, I was surprised at the result. I was just fresh from the emotional called break-up and deceit...just recuperated and starting to enjoy the new ambiance of "outdoors", I signed up into that site, just posted some info about myself, no pics included. The very first email I got was very intellectual and it made me curious about the sender, so I replied. We clicked...after a week of email chat and IMs, we decided to meet in person. We liked the experience and started being friends, discovered our common interests and craziness, and the rest is history. We are exclusive now and committed to each other. The bottomline is: DON'T LOOK, for it WILL find you. Be patient and enjoy your single blessedness, it won't last long, believe me!