A Punch in the Gut

SomiticPit · 04-18-2009, 01:20 AM

So, my boyfriend of six months and I broke up about three weeks ago. We both knew we weren't going to work...(I didn't give him enough of my time, he was too distant and always out doing "his own thing") So we both go our own seperate ways and discontinue even talking to one another. Let me tell you now, we both live in the same complex (across from each other, so we're always in each other's sight) I missed him way more than I let him know, but tried my best to move on and live my life without him. He tried to do the same. I knew when he had female company over, and it was always a punch in the gut. I would get nauseated and felt almost like I was being obsessive peeking out the window everytime I heard footsteps, a girl's laugh, or a door close. But even so, I didn't try to contact him in anyway to get back together with him. Thought about calling him for sex a few times, but knew better and glad I thought twice about it.

So I had a few of my close guy friends over (I've known them since I was young) to have a few beers and visit. My ex's jealousy kicked in when he saw them and he started yelling and throwing threats and called the landlord and all this other bull...I tried to tell him to leave me alone and mind my own business, but when I talked to him later, he made it clear to me that he was bothered when I brought "different guys" over.

So what I don't understand is...why does he think it's okay for him to have female company over in front of my face? Why does he think it's okay to flaunt the fact that he's hanging out with them (possibly screwing them, as he now stays out all night on weekdays). I don't understand that if he was really SO HURT OVER ME, why he would be doing that! I really do care soo much about him, but my head is telling me no, and I'm doing a really good job of holding myself back and giving myself time, but it still hurts me when I know he doesn't give two shits about me when he's with them. That when he's got them bent over, all he can think about is screwing them. He's not thinking about how everytime I walk by his apartment and see them, it twists me up inside. A punch in the gut is the only way I can think of to explain it.

WHY ARE GUYS SO HEARTLESS?

**WildChild** · 04-18-2009, 02:54 AM

Sounds more like brainless than heartless. This, unfortuately seems to be the way of the world, he is supposed to be so hard to get over that you stay celibate for months or years- LOL. There isn't much you can do with this. It's a no win situation. How long til your lease is up? A move might be a good idea even if it's to another apt in the complex.

**sourpuss** · 04-18-2009, 08:22 AM

Agreed. Move as soon as you can. He has no right to pitch a fit and involve your landlord in his petty insecurities.

**kms** · 04-21-2009, 11:06 AM

yeah I would agree that moving sounds like the best way to get all the visual punches in the gut out of sight and out of mind. But I also know that moving can be a huge pain in the *! So I guess you'd have to decide which pain is more endurable and choose that one.

If your lease isn't up for a while, you might consider going to talk to your landlord about the possibility of just moving to a different apartment in the complex. You don't need to go into details but maybe just say that you and your neighbor are on bad terms for personal reasons and he's really bothering you and harrassing you, and that you'd rather just try to change apartments if possible. It would probably depend on the apartment place whether they'd be willing to work with you or not.

04-18-2009, 01:20 AM	#1
SomiticPit Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 22	A Punch in the Gut So, my boyfriend of six months and I broke up about three weeks ago. We both knew we weren't going to work...(I didn't give him enough of my time, he was too distant and always out doing "his own thing") So we both go our own seperate ways and discontinue even talking to one another. Let me tell you now, we both live in the same complex (across from each other, so we're always in each other's sight) I missed him way more than I let him know, but tried my best to move on and live my life without him. He tried to do the same. I knew when he had female company over, and it was always a punch in the gut. I would get nauseated and felt almost like I was being obsessive peeking out the window everytime I heard footsteps, a girl's laugh, or a door close. But even so, I didn't try to contact him in anyway to get back together with him. Thought about calling him for sex a few times, but knew better and glad I thought twice about it. So I had a few of my close guy friends over (I've known them since I was young) to have a few beers and visit. My ex's jealousy kicked in when he saw them and he started yelling and throwing threats and called the landlord and all this other bull...I tried to tell him to leave me alone and mind my own business, but when I talked to him later, he made it clear to me that he was bothered when I brought "different guys" over. So what I don't understand is...why does he think it's okay for him to have female company over in front of my face? Why does he think it's okay to flaunt the fact that he's hanging out with them (possibly screwing them, as he now stays out all night on weekdays). I don't understand that if he was really SO HURT OVER ME, why he would be doing that! I really do care soo much about him, but my head is telling me no, and I'm doing a really good job of holding myself back and giving myself time, but it still hurts me when I know he doesn't give two shits about me when he's with them. That when he's got them bent over, all he can think about is screwing them. He's not thinking about how everytime I walk by his apartment and see them, it twists me up inside. A punch in the gut is the only way I can think of to explain it. WHY ARE GUYS SO HEARTLESS?

04-18-2009, 08:22 AM	#3
sourpuss WH Moderator Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Montana Posts: 1,367	Agreed. Move as soon as you can. He has no right to pitch a fit and involve your landlord in his petty insecurities. __________________ Hard work beats talent, when talent doesn't work hard. Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

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04-18-2009, 02:54 AM	#2
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 6,225 Blog Entries: 5	Sounds more like brainless than heartless. This, unfortuately seems to be the way of the world, he is supposed to be so hard to get over that you stay celibate for months or years- LOL. There isn't much you can do with this. It's a no win situation. How long til your lease is up? A move might be a good idea even if it's to another apt in the complex.

04-21-2009, 11:06 AM	#4
kms Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Indiana Posts: 256	yeah I would agree that moving sounds like the best way to get all the visual punches in the gut out of sight and out of mind. But I also know that moving can be a huge pain in the *! So I guess you'd have to decide which pain is more endurable and choose that one. If your lease isn't up for a while, you might consider going to talk to your landlord about the possibility of just moving to a different apartment in the complex. You don't need to go into details but maybe just say that you and your neighbor are on bad terms for personal reasons and he's really bothering you and harrassing you, and that you'd rather just try to change apartments if possible. It would probably depend on the apartment place whether they'd be willing to work with you or not.