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Women can be fickle.

They can be superficial.

They can be jealous.

I'ts part of their makeup.. Having said that, NOT all women are.. In -fact it's probably 50/50 based on in-securities or non-insecurities and also based on your behaviour around your male friends, that are in a relationship, as to how they react.

Guys, have problems with Guys too, same reason, one of their mates cheats with their woman, or flirts, or steals, no diffirent.

In-other-words, choose your friends wisely, expect some will let you down, hurt you, as will relationships and know that it doesn't happen to every single female/female relationship, you can make female friends that will last for years.

They just have to accept you for you and you for them..

On - line is easier is it not?

So is long distant relationships... people can get to know the inner you.

So, perhaps your shutting out a lot of who you are to women out there in the real world, so that they don't get a chance to really get to know you.

CW

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So you're not really saying that he's Wiccan, you're saying he's psycho. Paganism/Wicca are by definition not the "dark side." Nobody in their complete faculties performs black magic.
Can't we have a name for people who aren't blood witches? The Jews have Gentile, Harry Potter has Muggles ... whatever we want to call them, sometimes they really are just plain annoying when they "wanna be witches! Nurr nurr."

Why would it never happen to you? Would you not tolerate it?
In theory, anything can happen to anybody. I'm sure your date never thought it would happen to him.
Did you learn your lesson from it? Is it going to happen again?

People generally react to something they see in another person. If you consistently see the same reaction from women you need to either:
1. Reevaluate the kind of people you're around. The woman who stole from you would have stolen from anybody ... that's not a reflection of you. Trashy people are trashy. There's no helping them sometimes.
2. Reevaluate your behavior. It's no different than dating or a job interview: restrain your behavior during the first few meetings. Few women are going to like a woman who will hug her man and let him tell her he loves her without looking the least bit uncomfortable. Unattractive women won't tell you this: There is another standard for those of us who are attractive, and you are. You are a threat to women and a magnet to men, and you need to learn to control both of those roles with finesse or else you will fall into your own first category, at least in some minds.

You're going through a rough time, that's what's wrong. Your self-esteem was visibly at the bottom of the barrel before the breakup, and now you're scrambling for scraps. Don't.
It's easy to say, don't. I've been there. I am there. It's not easy to just not scramble.
However, if you're going to scramble for something, scramble for confidence. For poise. For actions that at least make you look the part. Sometimes pretending turns into reality ... ever fake a smile and feel better?
I know I'm not necessarily kind in my advice, but I believe you need some tough love right now. You can't continue treating yourself and others as you're doing and expect things to get better. Be proactive. Ranting is great, but what do you want to accomplish to RESOLVE your problems? Being negative only works for so long.

ThexMrs

I'm saying... Don't put words in my mouth.. Does it matter really?
I'm not the kind of girl that it happens to.

No, I didn't. Put me in the corner. I need a time out.

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