shopgirl24

So I'm 21 and I just found out that the last guy I dated only was after me because apparently he thought I was a virgin. I have no idea why he thought this and technically I wasn't though I had only had sex once before him. Though this whole time I thought it was over because he cheated on me , now I recently find out from his friend that he is calling me a virgin and he "got me" and that's all it was. I can't even describe how horrible this feels. I thought he was my friend and cared about me before we ever got close and now his friends tell me that he was after me the whole time because of virginity and that's it. But than his friend who told me this is also saying that he thinks the guy really cared about me and really did like me for once, because he's a player. I don't even know what to think, if he liked me for me or if it was all just a game. I have no idea what to do. I don't know if I should talk to him and find out but he may lie to me. I don't know whether to get so angry and want to kill him or if he feels horrible for what he did. I wouldn't even consider that we had sex though because it was awful and he couldn't even get it up, and oh yeah he didn't finish either, that's how scared and nervous he was with me. god, maybe he was the virgin, haha. So I'm just numb and clueless to what has happened to me. I can't trust a guy ever I feel like. I don't know how to ever face him and how to act when I do. Please help me! I need some support...:/

CHANDLERS WISH

There are an abundance of guys that would not "use" a lady, your 21...

There are an abundance of guys whom are cheaters, who do go for the chase, who are players, who only want to "score".

I am sure he had respect for you due to one thing only and that is "your age", he was aware of that and if he believed you were a virgin, ha, because you were'nt, so he didn't win... did he but more importantly, you chose to give that guy a go, you need to develop your gut feeling about guys, intuition, those whom are players and those whom are not.

The only real way honestly of doing this is be their girlfriend I think for a few months before giving in, because if they are a player, they will walk and not wait, or they will not spend much time with you each week, whilst they are "out" playing, and meanwhile waiting, for you to give in.

You can tell..

Just chose wisely we all get hurt, we all get a bad one, it's life, but then so do guys.

CW

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shopgirl24

yeah i actually didn't trust him at all. we were friends for a few months and i knew all of his friends as well. he just talked to me a lot and we became better friends but somewhere in the process he showed me he was interested in me. i didn't like him but i guess you could say it was out of boredom ha. but than i ended up liking him and yeah i made him wait 2 months to have sex. he told me he was never with anyone else but me during that time and that it wasn't until after that when he cheated on me. how ironic right? so idk ive just realized hes not worth it to be all upset over. i didnt let my guard down for so long with him and now im going to have to def keep my guard up high for anyone else cause im really not trusting of anyone right now.

CHANDLERS WISH

ALWAYS go with gut feelings. ALWAYS.

You felt it at the beginning but then went ahead and dated him, etc.

Guys will always "try", today one of my Vendors touched me too many times, on my arm, i got the message.... I told him how there was a Monday and a Sunday and what ever in between he laughed....

Point being, you know... it's there in black and white only for some reason, you don't make the management decision to see it, and so you "try"...

Next time just following gut feeling and there may not be an inevitable.

Make sense?

He wasn't worth it, and he's not worth another thought and you need to see that life is a learning curb, for women, and for men...

It just is.

Don't be disillusioned, what happened, rather, what you know you saw at the beginning, it was there staring at you....

There are a lot of great guys in this world, as there are women.

CW

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