Iseulda

I think it is great you were able to talk to him. And even greater that the conversation went well.

I still think you should just wear what you want and let him deal with it how he will. Wearing things like shorts is just a matter of practicality sometimes - and you can wear dresses and nice things for yourself.

Maybe he's not going to hassle you about it though - if he keeps asking 'what are you wearing, send me a photo' then you'll need to politely remind him to trust you. What you are wearing may alter how other people behave towards you, but they will not alter how you behave towards other people.

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Rather at once our time devour, / Than languish in his slow-chapp'd power.
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And tear our pleasures with rough strife / Thorough the iron gates of life.
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caterpillar79

If he loves you as you are, he will let you BE YOURSELF. Being away from you is never a reason for him to tell you what to do, what to wear or how to conduct yourself. YOU decide for yourself. Before he met you and became his GF, YOU were making those decisions, why allow him now? If the "mood" allows, you may also want to talk this out a little bit more, go further into details, start by telling him how you feel and what might work for both of you.

Tell him how much you want to do your very best to make your relationship work. I am currently in a long distance relationship, and like you, we were joined - at - the - hip...we even share plates in restaurants (and proud of it!). I was the one in your BF's place, but I tried my very best not to be controlling, though I felt it coming. I get depressed if he fails to call that night, cry when I don't get a reply in my work email, couldn't sleep in my own bed especially if he didn't return any of my calls or text messages. I freaked out easily.

After a couple of posts here...chats with friends here in this site, I finally got it. I poured my heart out when we got to see each other (face to face), even until now, when I feel crappy, I tell him over the phone. Then he understood my needs... he made sure that my needs are met. Then my heart settled down...now it is at peace, and he keeps sustaining it...and so does my peace goes on.

YOU, my dear, you have to make him feel secure. You may want to ask him what his needs are in detail, so you can address them one by one. If he wants a phone conversation nightly, then, set up a schedule that works for both of you: who calls when. If you want, you (and he) can save, so that one of these days, you can visit him and spend the holidays with him. Send him something audio - visual or just anything...something to remind him that YOU are always with him. My BF made me a music mix, burned it in CD (we both have a copy), and everytime I listen to it, my fears and all crazy thoughts vanish, instead, I feel him love envelop my entire being and I am OK.

Take care, and tell us how it goes.

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