Should I get pay back?

ilovemyninja007 · 06-11-2009, 10:01 AM

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years. A girl I will admit I have been worried about because she ALWAYS flirts with him. I know that she likes him and she def. shows it. She has pulled up his shirt and said "What kind of underwear are you wearing?"

...........So we were broken up and I was talking to him trying to see why he broke up with me...While we were writing the note back in forth in class THEY started writing a note. She was trying to impress him and stuff. Well we got back together that night and I was wondering do I have a right to say something to her? I know it sounds silly but after a couple have been dating for 2 1/2 years you dont just start flirting and try to get with him right? For the girls sake right? Especially when they broke up for like an hour right? Please tell me what I should do...I know we were broken up but isnt it a common courtesy to wait like a week or two? Please help me...thanks a bundle...

Peace out trout

**Hopeless Dork** · 06-11-2009, 10:13 AM

If this girl was not your friend, a common courtesy of waiting would have been decent but isn't really anything there is a standard for. While it is SO much easier to lay the blame on the flirty girl, trust me, oh trust me I love to do that too - the responsability lays squarely with your guy to handle it properly.

How would he react to a guy lifting your shirt up around your tummy asking you what kind of panties you have on? If the answer is upset, he should be responding to flirty girls in the way he would expect YOU to respond. Which is to not tolerate such a blatent disrespect to him or you or your relationship with him.

Girls will be girls, they will want what someone else has, they will be deceptive and over the top to try to get it, your boyfriend will have to exhibit more strength if he doesn't want to hurt you. It won't be at all possible to get girls to follow your rules of back up and leave my guy alone you hussie! lol :-) although gosh I sure do wish they would sometimes. Your boyfriend is the only one that can put a stop to it, by blowing them off, anything you do to try to stop her will be in vain and might get her upset enough to even try harder.

jstew86 · 06-12-2009, 10:55 AM

I totally agree with Hopeless Dork!!!

If you say anything to the flirty girl -- a girl's instinct is to go full on and prove to the other girl she can have WHATEVER she wants!!

so... def. dont do that.

**WildChild** · 06-12-2009, 12:15 PM

Take the high road. Don't pull yourself down to her level. It will sully you more than her.

06-11-2009, 10:01 AM	#1
ilovemyninja007 Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 18	Should I get pay back? My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years. A girl I will admit I have been worried about because she ALWAYS flirts with him. I know that she likes him and she def. shows it. She has pulled up his shirt and said "What kind of underwear are you wearing?"...........So we were broken up and I was talking to him trying to see why he broke up with me...While we were writing the note back in forth in class THEY started writing a note. She was trying to impress him and stuff. Well we got back together that night and I was wondering do I have a right to say something to her? I know it sounds silly but after a couple have been dating for 2 1/2 years you dont just start flirting and try to get with him right? For the girls sake right? Especially when they broke up for like an hour right? Please tell me what I should do...I know we were broken up but isnt it a common courtesy to wait like a week or two? Please help me...thanks a bundle... Peace out trout

06-11-2009, 10:13 AM	#2
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 2,189	If this girl was not your friend, a common courtesy of waiting would have been decent but isn't really anything there is a standard for. While it is SO much easier to lay the blame on the flirty girl, trust me, oh trust me I love to do that too - the responsability lays squarely with your guy to handle it properly. How would he react to a guy lifting your shirt up around your tummy asking you what kind of panties you have on? If the answer is upset, he should be responding to flirty girls in the way he would expect YOU to respond. Which is to not tolerate such a blatent disrespect to him or you or your relationship with him. Girls will be girls, they will want what someone else has, they will be deceptive and over the top to try to get it, your boyfriend will have to exhibit more strength if he doesn't want to hurt you. It won't be at all possible to get girls to follow your rules of back up and leave my guy alone you hussie! lol :-) although gosh I sure do wish they would sometimes. Your boyfriend is the only one that can put a stop to it, by blowing them off, anything you do to try to stop her will be in vain and might get her upset enough to even try harder. __________________ ------------- Defintion of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein

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06-12-2009, 10:55 AM	#3
jstew86 Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 9	I totally agree with Hopeless Dork!!! If you say anything to the flirty girl -- a girl's instinct is to go full on and prove to the other girl she can have WHATEVER she wants!! so... def. dont do that.

06-12-2009, 12:15 PM	#4
WildChild WH Moderator Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 8,669 Blog Entries: 6	Take the high road. Don't pull yourself down to her level. It will sully you more than her.