yellowpiXi3

I was talking to my boyfriend and the subject of strip clubs came up...and I asked him some questions..and he was honest and told me. So I am curious what actually goes on in there. He said we should go (him and i) he said he wouldn't get anything done (ie lap dances) but he said he'd buy me some. I am curious to see what it is like. I have some female friends that don't approve of the person they're dating to go to a strip club.

So here's the kicker...is that normal? for a guy to say "let's go to a strip club so you can see what goes on and how you feel about it" I mean; that's great and all; that he's open and actually pretty excited. I have been "bi-curious" before so I am not really sure.

CHANDLERS WISH

I think he's excited that you are capable of sharing with him, something that most women wouldn't fathom doing..

Only you can deside if you want to go down the path of bi-curious however, so don't allow him to sway you thereafter, to take that step with him unless you feel safe, within your relationship and also that you want to.

I only say that bit because he says "he would buy you some lap dances" and is excited... That's a typical man fantasy two women with him.

It's normal, I would go with my man if he asked and find it totally amusing, no big deal if you don't hold jealousy in your relationship and know where you stand...

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rcoreyus

If you are OK with it, it sounds like a great idea. You can see what goes on (even if he isn't buying any special services, other men will be and you can see), and decide if it is OK or not. If you do have Bi leanings then maybe this is something both of you can enjoy.

The big caveat is that if you decide you aren't comfortable there and / or aren't comfortable with him going there, he should respect your wishes.

HotNCold

I want to go to the strip club with my boyfriend, but he wont take me. He says he would feel dirty. Now, he doesnt go anyway, with or without me. But he said he just couldnt see me in a strip club, and that he wouldnt go with me...I'd say you are a lucky girl :-)

fifi72

It's better both of you go rather than him go on his own or with friends. At least he's trying to involve you. Not sure if I would want to make it a regular thing though. Maybe a couple of times a year as a treat, and then book into a hotel for a night of passion together.

DrearyDrear

My parents (late 40's) and an older couple we are friends with (my "adoptive grandparents" prolly about mid 60's) went to dinner at a strip club in DC together once. They found it "amusing" and "interesting" as I remember.

I really want to go to one to practice some gesture drawings, since I'm a digital art student and past our first year we don't get nude/seminude/any models to watch and practice drawing. My boyfriend says the ones here in our city are really crummy though, we'll have to go up to DC or somewhere to sit at a better one sometime. He's also said there are clubs that have both genders dancing, which I would really like just to have more variety of people to look at. I don't find it weird at all, he doesn't seem to find it weird with me. I consider it fair and rather an interesting "treat" to go look at other people together. Enjoy your trip to one!

ren_07

It's great that the two of you share this openness. This is actually giving you a level up above most other girls in his mind because not many women are willing to do something like this. This experience will bring you closer, not farther apart. Unless of course your curiosity becomes more of an interference afterwards. But I'd say go for it none the less.

hawkins

You may think that right now that you are too young, but you need some experience talking to girls, and learning to understand them. I'm not saying to go and propose to someone tomorrow, but get out there and make yourself available, because when your older and you feel that your mature enough, you will find the right girl and you will have learned from your mistakes and will have learned a what you need to do to have a commited relationship. And completely unrelated, but practice makes perfect at physical activites as well,


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caterpillar79

Just go ahead, join him and explore. I will, too. LOL!

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yellowpiXi3

thanks guys for the advice... im sure i'll be back to post what happened! lol