hilal

argghh...my boyfriend is too relax about saying something. for example 2 days ago we were talking on the msn and i had eaten pizza 1 day before and i said

-ill eat pizza again lol
-again?u eat too much.
O.o

he thought that i had eaten pizza on that day and i would eat again.tho it was so . i think saying like that is rude :S

and again a few days ago he told me

-your hair looks like hores' tails. take a pic and see it.
-omg ! what? do u say like that to ur sister too??!!
-she has short hair.and also i say this to everyone who has long hair. .

i cant beleive that he told me like that. :S he is so rude to girls O.o
ive talked about that to him...and he said ''i dont think saying these things are rude..i just said what i thought.i didnt mean bad''

:S

WildChild

He is confusing honest with blunt.

There is a saying I'm liking more and more, "My opinion of you is none of your business" Or "Your opinion of me is none of my business"
Another my mother always said, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything"

You are going to have to explain to him that being so blunt can be misunderstood and be hurtful. If he likes you and wants to please you, he'll listen but it may take some practice for him to learn another way.

caterpillar79

He tends to speak before he thinks. Bad habit. You are so forgiving and I admire you for that. I might not be able to stand that.

His manners speak loudly of the way he was brought up, and/or the environment he was exposed to - could be both or either the home, neighborhood, school, anywhere including media. What he needs to learn is to be sensitive of others' feelings. Since he's blunt, you should be straightforward to him and tell him how you feel about his demeanor towards you, and females in general. Problem is, those blunt people are mostly the ones who cannot take criticisms positively, whether it be constructive or not. Proceed with caution.

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hilal

i talked to him about that.. he was so ashamed..and he is still so sad ..he told me that he will never do this again and he will try to do his best about that. i feel bad when i see his face cos he is so sad . :S so i tried to make him relax and i said ''ok. dont care too much just forget about that''..he said ok but he is still sad . it made me sad too i felt that i hurt him and it was my fault . T.T

CHANDLERS WISH

Lessons in life are about learning what is "real" and what is "fake" not saying that he was faking "being sad", but the bottom line, is a "person" can backtrack and make the other feal guilty... Remember that for future.

You didn't hurt him... He crossed boundries that you did not like and so you let him know.. IT IS NOT A FAULT.. It is a beauty that you have the strength to say to someone, "ahha." sorry but I am a person and will not be recognised as anything other than...

Recognise that for now.

CW

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Tina Lee

You shouldn't feel bad, or guilty.

I know you feel bad that he's hurt, but it's a lesson that he needs to learn. Wouldn't you rather he learn it from you in a caring way, instead of being told by someone else. They may not be so forgiving, and nice as you are.

So the next time he's blunt, please tell him in a loving way. But please don't back down, because he's sad.

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amaranthine

Why feel bad for making him sad? You were confronting him about an issue that made YOU the unhappy one. I'd be more concerned if he didn't get upset about the way he was acting. He'll just have to be upset at himself for a while and learn to revise his ways.

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