classy_lady

Have a few questions for you:

1) where/how do you meet good guys worth marrying and building a family with?

2) how can you tell if a guy is a player, jerk, unfit? (I mean apart from the very obvious behaviors). Some of them can mask themselves and confuse you pretty well.

3) how can you tell a guy is married (if he does not wear a ring, talk about it,...)? You can not ask him or anyone you both know since it can really be messy.

4) does it matter if a woman is petite (eg. 5'3", 115 lbs)?

WildChild

You can meet someone just about anywhere, expand and develop your interests. Get out and about. Good people generally know other good people so get togther with freinds in a mixed group.
It takes time to get to know someone and see what they really are, don't rush into things.
Of course you can ask. How else are you going to find out? Bring it up in casual conversation. "That Joe seems like a really nice guy, his wife is a lucky lady" Someone who knows will either agree or say something that lets you know.
Just as women are attracted to different physical types so are men

Fatin

ok
1) good men are in everywhere im telling u u jz have to look deeper
2)girl we are women and we have that feeling when u know the player or whatever u know!
3)i don't know the answer to that :s ..
4)well to me i dont think that at all cos look at me now i tell to myself that i am a phat princess still i have boys running after me

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MandyBee23

1. I have noticed the best guys (even the ones that didn't work out) showed up when you weren't looking for them. Be independent and they will come to you.
2.Well most of them I have known were very obvious and even came out and told me. If it isn't obvious I'd say get to know him before you do anything "big" with him, it will show up usually sooner than later. Use your judgement, and if you don't trust that introduce him to your best friend because she will always know!
3. If it was me, I'd just flat out ask, what is there to hide? If you wanna know something just ask it. Sometimes you will never know something if you just dont ask, and even then he still might lie. I dunno I don't have any experience with this
4. That's a silly question Rock what you got girl! If it's something you don't like make it work for you! I am 5"5 and 105lbs, sometimes I think I am too skinny but I act like I just walked off the runway! Be confident! Love yourself!

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Neaky

All i can say is being petite doesn't mean a thing.. I am 4'11, 98lbs and my boyfriend is 6'6.. Height nor size matters. I second what MandyBee says, "Be confident. Love yourself."

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baja

Classy_lady, I hope your friend finds this helpful...

1) How/where to meet good guys -- Well, this depends on what type of guy she wants. If the adventurous type, go to the park, go hiking, try mountain biking. If the intellectual type, try plays, theater, bookstores, etc. If she's into competitive guys, then any sporting event will work. Financially stable guys can be found at charity events, community events, chamber of commerce functions, etc. Main point is, they are out there, everywhere, but they don't advertise and probably will accidentally bump into her. She just needs to be herself and not look/sound too impatient to find someone.

2) How can you tell if a guy is a jerk/player -- Jerks are self-centered, inconsiderate and have petty issues that can be easy to spot if you take more control of the conversation. They'll show their true colors soon enough. As for players, they are overly confident, have very high opinions of themselves, typically over-flatter, can be very touchy-feely and deal in quantity. Watch for the guys working the room. The problem is players upon first glance are usually everything the typical woman wants -- nicely dressed, confident, funny, attractive, etc. You HAVE to dig deeper, usually their achillees heel is their relationship history. If you're brutal, zero-in there and the average player will provide disappointing stats or disappear altogether, lol.

3) How can you tell if a guy is married -- Be observant and you'll spot them quickly. Outside of the obvious signs (ring, white line on finger, etc), a guy might be married if... he gets evasive or guarded when asked about if he's married, has family, children, where he lives... if all contact with him is on HIS terms... if he also pays in cash for most transactions.. Note that you can usually spot a lie if someone looks down AND to the left while answering a question -- very high chance the individual is lying.

4) Does it matter if a woman is petite -- Absolutely not, but it does depend on the individual's preference. Women seem to generally prefer men taller than themselves. On the flip-side, men will generally like women shorter (factor in high heels into the height count). Ultimately height makes no difference if both individuals in the relationship are comfortable with the situation. As info, I'm 6' 2" and have dated women between 5' to 5' 10".

caterpillar79

Well said, baja... thanks for the input. Works for me, too. (Though I am not looking...he found me!)

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