zeek31

A friend at work asked me if I was interested in going on a blind date. Not a big fan of them but I thought why not, I had stopped dating a girl about a month before due to her moving. The background I got was that her last boyfriend treated her bad. They were on again off again then she ended it. Don’t know how long ago that was. So we talk through the week and set up a date. Everything went real good, one of the better dates I have had especially for a blind date. We had a lot in common…no weird awkward moments, her initiating contact with me. Seemed to go real well. At the end of the night told her I had fun and she mentioned going out again. She asked me when my next day off was. I told her I would call her when I got my work schedule the following week and she seemed excited. The next day (Sunday) I get a phone call from the people who set us up asking what I thought of her. Told them I really liked her was going to ask her out again. They said she had fun, liked me and would go out with me again. I called her that evening and left a message. The next day I got my work schedule and found out I would be off on Friday. That evening I called and left message telling her I would be off Friday and asked her if she wanted to do something. Waited a couple of days with no response. I called on Friday no answer and left a general message. I got a text from her the next day saying

“I am real sorry I haven’t called you back. I went out of town with my friend they had to put her horse to sleep. I had a lot of fun with you the other night but I am just not ready to hang out with anyone yet. My last break up was real bad and I am just not ready yet. I am sorry but I do want to keep in touch if that’s ok?”

I sent back a text saying I can understand ur situation. I had a lot of fun with u also. We can keep in touch, call me sometime. I waited about a week and a half and gave her a call to feel out the situation. It’s been a couple of days with no response. So my question is should I try to keep in touch or just let it go. I usually don’t get hung up on a girl like this, but we had an awesome time. Let me know what you think.

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Breakups are harder for a woman because of our emotions, we tend to drag out the situation before moving on.

She may be hurt but also not over him irrespective of the way he treated her, or else she would be ready to move on...

Don't text her, let her go for at least 3 weeks, or else she will put it in the too hard basket.. and if you do text her, don't ask how she is or request catching up, send something funny, non-threatening to her..

It's possible you can date this girl a month or two down the track, meanwhile don't give up on your own dating life either, if it's meant to be it will.

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lizzy_09

What confused me is that if she initiated the contact, that means she wants to move on and yet......

She seems to be showing signs of moving on already from his ex here.

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I'm just saying that it could be just a faux pas. She could probably being saying this cause she meet somebody new. Just a possibility. Better to see this circumstances in different angles.

She did initiate her interest before but if she doesn't right now, then move on. If indeed she is still grieving a bad relationship, it would be best not to get yourself attached to someone who's still in love with his ex. She wouldn't be able to really appreciate you as you.

happy ending

just my take on the situation, she couldnt have got back with the boyfriend could she? sounds like something is up anyway. you did your best, sometimes it just doesnt work out.

zeek31

like i said...confused on this one. i won't see the guy at work for a week or 2 i will probably run it by him to see what he says. guess i will play it out and see what happens. just weird to have that good of time, then have it drop off like that. thanks for the input.

Ahryin

I think she got scared! Some women have the forsight to realize they aren't ready. She probably at first thought that she was...at the same time it could have been her friends trying to push her before she was really ready. I think that the fact she didn't lead you on and addressed the situation before you really had a chance to get feelings involved is comendable. I agree with CW wait a couple of weeks...women love to laugh and if you send her a joke or two she will associate you with feeling good and laughing. So when she is ready you will be the first person she thinks about. Do not ask her out again until she makes it perfectly clear it is ok to....keep us posted

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OhThereYouAre

Yea, let her go. No point in holding on to this one.

In my experience, most women will try and avoid hurting your feelings by giving you some cop out like the one you received in your text. It'd probably be better if they just told you the truth, but oh well....this isn't a perfect world. And i'm sure it also has to do with the way that most guys deal with rejection....which is badly.

Actions speak WAY louder than words - take what someone says with a grain of salt. Watch what they do...if she calls you...that's more of a sign that she's interested - which obviously she isn't in this case....because?....ding ding ding....she didn't call. Don't take it personal, people have to look out for #1, ya know?

I'll give her more credit than most, though. She had the balls to contact you, albeit through a text, but at least she put *some* effort* into it and didn't leave you wondering.

It doesn't matter her reasoning for breaking it off, but continuing to contact her will make her more inclined to not want to see you again. Do you want to call her when she's out with friends, have her look at her phone and say..."Oh it's that stalker guy again."?

Good luck with your next date, brother.

OhThereYouAre

And whatever you do...don't run it by your co-worker who set it up. That will accomplish nothing. Let it go.

Ahryin

I agree plus it's none of their business

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zeek31

ok, I will not talk to the guy at work about it.