leti58

We have been dating 6 months. He is out of town alot on business, but when he gets back in he calls me asap and we spend time together.

It seems that the last weekend that we spent together was great, we started to see each other more than normal and then the next week he is more distant with phone calls.

He says he thought we were doing really good and he just had some business and commitments to take care of these last few weeks and that is why I didnt hear much from him, but he always communicates with me at least once a day if not more. Only when he is out of town do I not hear from him, but he calls asap when he gets back in.

We only saw each other once on a weekend and then lately he wanted to spend more time with me, back to back on weekend days. The more we see each other the less the phone calls. I dont understand.

These last 2 weeks he really disconnected from me after a great weekend, and he says that he thought we were doing real good. he says nothing has changed, but still the calls are scarce. What to think? He continues to tell me he loves me.

Chantalemma

I think maybe he is getting confortable and doesn't feel the need to call you as much. Why don't you call him? If everything is ok. don't worry yourself sick about this. Let it go. He mgiht just want some time apart. I imagine he lives alobe and is use to his independency. Give him time....it will come. My opinion.

Ahryin

Do you feel in your gut that everything is ok? I know you have heard that little voice so what is your little voice saying?

I understand how you feel but if he is busy he's busy...maybe he really does just feel like since you guys had a great time and both parted ways content that you were ok..I don't know...but I do want to know what your gut is telling you...most of the times we don't listen to our gut and I get that it's telling you something from the tone of your thread

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prawnprincess

Isn't it the worst when you have some great moments, and then it's as if the guy you love has been sucked into a black hole and you can't tell- was it all in your head? Then he comes back, and everything is great again. I have been going through something similar, so here's my take on it:

It sounds like your guy is getting all the perks, and is happy with how easily he can come and go. What about you? You're always there for him, but I'm guessing you don't feel like he's always there for you. If the relationship is going to continue, I don't think it is too much to ask that he put some effort in keeping in touch with you while he's gone. It can be small and simple, his own way of choice. It's just not worth the agony of catering to him and feeling neglected- which really affects other parts of your life, too!

I think most guys in relationships are a little weaker at consistent communication. A guy friend of mine admitted that sometimes he'd rather play video games or watch tv than call his fiance- he loves her, but that's just how he feels sometimes. But, hey, we do so many things for the men we love- it shouldn't be too much to ask for what we need.

I recently expressed similar needs to my boyfriend, and though it was hard for me to do, he ended up acknowledging that he should be taking better care of me, and he is doing much better with communication- it is such a relief!