Boyfriend of 5 months, low sex drive?

beachgirl0620 · 08-13-2009, 05:47 AM

hi, ive been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months. Hes very affectionate and attentive. Hes always kissing me and hugging me, touching my leg and holding my hand. He spends the night a few times a week. Our relationship is pretty perfect except in one area, sex. We have had sex a few times. Hes explained to me that he had some bad sexual experiences in the past but always tells me im different. He constantly tells me how much he likes me and wants to be with me. Everytime i try to initiate anything sexual he says hes tired or has to go. I dont understand it. He says it wont always be like this, but i wonder if im wasting my time. I dont want to break up with him over this. I care about him a lot. I just want to understand, and im wondering if theres anything i can do.

beachgirl0620 · 08-13-2009, 06:00 AM

trying to delete this

beachgirl0620 · 08-13-2009, 06:03 AM

or at least edit this thread. its very difficult

**Chantalemma** · 08-13-2009, 07:16 AM

Have you actually have a heart to heart talk to him abotu how you are feeling? We have to learn to communicate better. I have the same problem. My got home yesterday did his errands and I did mine. By the time we were ready to go to bed. He was tired. There goes my wish for the night. But this mornig he was ready and willing to go al the way. I couldn't I had to get ready for work. Isin't it alwasy the way. Oh well, mayeb tonight will be better. It has been like this all week.

**baja** · 08-13-2009, 06:35 PM

beachgirl, your man sounds like he really cares about you. Has he provided any information regarding some of his bad sexual experiences?

Based on how he is measuring his physical actions, it is quite likely the answer lies here. It's possible that he has a confidence issue regarding one or more of those prior encounters. Perhaps something even quite personally embarrassing or disturbing so as to bother him to this very day.

You might want to review what led up to the nights where you both were intimate. There might be a "recipe" there for success that could shed light on how to help him get past what seems to be blocking him. Sounds like this may be a slow, delicate process from here.

08-13-2009, 05:47 AM	#1
beachgirl0620 Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 3	Boyfriend of 5 months, low sex drive? hi, ive been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months. Hes very affectionate and attentive. Hes always kissing me and hugging me, touching my leg and holding my hand. He spends the night a few times a week. Our relationship is pretty perfect except in one area, sex. We have had sex a few times. Hes explained to me that he had some bad sexual experiences in the past but always tells me im different. He constantly tells me how much he likes me and wants to be with me. Everytime i try to initiate anything sexual he says hes tired or has to go. I dont understand it. He says it wont always be like this, but i wonder if im wasting my time. I dont want to break up with him over this. I care about him a lot. I just want to understand, and im wondering if theres anything i can do.

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08-13-2009, 06:00 AM	#2
beachgirl0620 Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 3	trying to delete this

08-13-2009, 06:03 AM	#3
beachgirl0620 Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 3	or at least edit this thread. its very difficult

08-13-2009, 07:16 AM	#4
Chantalemma Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Ontario Posts: 210	Have you actually have a heart to heart talk to him abotu how you are feeling? We have to learn to communicate better. I have the same problem. My got home yesterday did his errands and I did mine. By the time we were ready to go to bed. He was tired. There goes my wish for the night. But this mornig he was ready and willing to go al the way. I couldn't I had to get ready for work. Isin't it alwasy the way. Oh well, mayeb tonight will be better. It has been like this all week.

08-13-2009, 06:35 PM	#5
baja VIP Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Atlanta Posts: 63	beachgirl, your man sounds like he really cares about you. Has he provided any information regarding some of his bad sexual experiences? Based on how he is measuring his physical actions, it is quite likely the answer lies here. It's possible that he has a confidence issue regarding one or more of those prior encounters. Perhaps something even quite personally embarrassing or disturbing so as to bother him to this very day. You might want to review what led up to the nights where you both were intimate. There might be a "recipe" there for success that could shed light on how to help him get past what seems to be blocking him. Sounds like this may be a slow, delicate process from here.