Thread: need help please - does this guy like me or just playing games?

Originally Posted by woodencup

Ok. Soooo... here's my take:

I think that the guy does infact like you if what you are saying is accurate. If he has friends to hang out with, then it's an obvious indicator that he enjoys spending time with you and the fact that he spends his weekends with you is another big flag.

He probably doesn't contact you during the week because he is working.

I'm honestly appalled by reading some of the suggestions as well. I even made an account just to reply to this thread lol (I'm not really sure how I ended up here either). How can you tell her to not fit her schedule around him? How would you feel if you wanted to make plans with him, but he refused to put other things aside for you? Doesn't that just give off the impression that he doesn't think you're important?

I don't know why you would recommend trying to test him with these mind games. The signals are pretty clear, and if you need him to be any more specific, then you'd better go get your head checked. I think he didn't attempt to have sex with you afterwards because he RESPECTS YOU. Yes. That's right. I'm sure it must be startling to actually be treated with respect for once. He just backed off after you said no, and decided that it would be best to let you decide when to have sex, assuming you wanted it.

Truthfully though, I feel really bad for the guy for having to go through this. It is the biggest headache in the world to deal with girls that have self-esteem issues. You give subtle signs at first, then more direct signs, but if you don't move fast enough, girls will complain that you're slow, but if you go too quick, they just think you're after sex and that's it.

So in summary, it sounds like you two just got out of a relationship, so as long as you're not using him as a rebound, and he's actually spending one on one time with you, it's pretty obvious that he likes you. Am I saying that you're destined for a great relationship? I can't really say, but instead of over-analyzing things, why don't you just take a chance and tell him how you feel because I think that he definitely has an interest.

Woodencup, you just made my day with this comment thanks.
like you know whats going on in my mind heheh - i could have written this myself.
and it feels good someone shares my thoughts on this whole situation, so maybe im not as twisted as i thought i was

but: i know everyone else who posted a comment here has a point and maybe those that suggested to keep distance from him and keep him on a sidetrack will be right in the end.

i know he leaves the office late night almost every day, still; if i was him i would at least send a text once in a while.. i know guys are not su much into texting tho..

maybe he does respect me thats why he is not pressuring me for sex, maybe he is just not that into me, drinking and chatting is all he wants, who knows.
but i was thinking of this: "Sleeping in the guest room? So you excite him sometimes, but you aren't the woman he's looking to give his all to." - so this means if he sleeps with me on one of the first few times we meet, that shows he wants to give me his all?

i dont want to be naive or have illusions, still i think this deserves a chance.

he called me this morning, invited me over tonight, but this time there will be a little party at his place, not just the two of us. which is okay i guess, we are not a couple or anything. but i will try to talk to him honestly to clear things - and i am so with you Woodencup on the mind games stuff. I am tired of that. i dont want to and i wont chase him, but if he calls and wants to meet i will try to make it and wont make some other (probably more boring) program a priority...

oh well thanks everyone for the input again, really appreaciate them all, will let you know how the weekend goes and i hope i will have the chance to talk about all this with him.

have a great weekend!!