Thread: I like him A LOT...but is he interested in just being friends....

Ooooooooookay....so here is my long winded update:

He ended up asking me to meet me on Saturday instead, which worked out well because we were driving right through where he lives. So me and my best friend stopped at his house and after about an hour and a half we decided to be on our way. Then Mister says "well you can stay here for the night but I have to get a work out in tonight, or you can stay and hang out and I can drop you off later on...." So needless to say I stayed...

We took a drive around the city because I had never been there before, and we stopped at Walmart to pick up junk food for during the movie we were going to watch later. Then we went back to his place and I went to shower and get ready to go out for dinner, while he went to the gym. Went out for dinner and had probably one of the most emotional conversations I have ever had in my life...We talked about everything.....from him watching his mother pass away 8 years ago, to why he hasn't talked to his dad in over 6 months, to the craziness his ex-girlfriend did when they broke up, to my abusive ex-boyfriend from about 7 years ago and why I really haven't dated since (he was asking questions, I didn't just start blabbing about it), to my dad and brother almost dying, and then to problems at work (which is good because I don't think anyone really understands the stresses of policing unless you work in the industry). He was very attentive and supportive. But this is the part where I get confused about whether this is a "best friend" relationship or there is potential for more. He tells me that it seems like I have spent the last 7 years of my life helping everyone else, but what have I done for me? That I have so much positive energy, but he can tell there is still unresolved issues about almost losing my brother and dad, and about the abusive relationship. He suggested joining a women's support group....because he knows I'm the kind of person that wants a relationship with a man to be meaningful, but isn't convinced that that can be fully achieved without me dealing with what happened. He said he believes this is all part of the process of being able to "fill my own glass" before I can help fill someone else's. He then went on to say that he's trying to make sure his "glass is overflowing" before he can be with someone properly, as he is still dealing with a lot of his family issues and work stresses. So based on this conversation....is he not interested in pursuing a relationship with me, but wanting me to get better for myself?

After dinner, I mentioned that I hoped he didn't feel like I was dumping all my drama on him...and he told me that his definition of drama is when people create situations that cause them to be in negative situations, but that I had legitimate reason to be stressed, and he didn't see it like that was what I was doing at all. Then he kept apologzing on the way home for not being able to make it down to where I live, but I told him not to worry, that I understand his job and there was plenty of other weekends. He said he was gonna go through the work calendar and find a couple weekends that he absolutely doesn't have to work, and let me know so we can work something out because he was "really looking forward to spending some time together."

When we got home I changed into my pj's (no lingerie, I promise), and we sat on opposite ends of the couch to watch the movie. He came and pulled out my footrest for me, and covered me with his duvet so that I wouldn't be cold. He knew I had a bit of a head ache so he even got me the bottle of tylenol and a glass of water. After the movie he showed me pics of his brother and his dogs, some pics of his mom, etc. And since it was 2:00 a.m. and he had to be at work for noon, I told him we should probably go to bed.

He came and asked if I needed anything else, and hugged me (didn't try to kiss me). And we did sleep in separate rooms. He checked to make sure the window was locked and the blinds were closed properly...and he brought me an extra blanket just in case. Told me he was leaving his bedroom door open, so just call him or come get him if anything...and off to bed he went.

I didn't wake him up in the morning, I just called my friend to come get me. But I did leave him a note thanking him for having me, for the chat...and explaining that I didn't wake him up because I knew he had a long 12 hour day ahead (I figured since he carries a gun, him being rested was more important than me getting a hug goodbye). He texted me later in the afternoon and said he would probably be down my way this week for work, but he will let me know details as soon as he knows.....and that was that.

Any thoughts?