Kallygirlie

Ok everyone. I need some advice here. I'm all about ready to smack some since into my man but I figured first thing I'd do is ask you guys something. My Boyfriend and I are having a little debate. Not really effecting our relationship wise but is just really annoying me. We are living together and we have a joint account (its actually under only my name but we bother direct deposit a percentage of our checks for household bills). He loves the freedom we have because of my budgeting skills. Well I came up with the idea of us joining our cell phone plans together. We've been together a yr and a half and plan to get married and start a family in the next yr or so. I figured why not, we have been doing amazing since moving in. Yeah we've hit a few bumps but who doesn't.

Heres the debate, we have different carriers. I used to work as a tech for a cell phone company so I know a little bit about phones and service. He is always complaining about his phone, his service and his bill, me I'm pretty happy with my service and bill but he sat on my phone months ago and its been ever since so I just need a new phone. At first he liked the idea. I told him its be so much easier cause he still has an issue with remembering to pay the bill. I told him we could just up our percentage to cover and I'd pay it when I paid the rest. So naturally I figured he hates his service I love mine so smart choice would be going to mine right? Not so easy. He's in contract with his as am I. I know how to get his contract release with no fees because of my experience working with them. I say that and he starts making excuses. Bottom line is my service would be cheaper and more reliable in our areas with my service. then comes the fact that I hate his service all together. Any who, my question is, do you guys think its a matter of being partial to his carrier or just doesn't think he wants to lock us together like that for 2 yrs. he did have a phone with and ex and she screwed him with a $1000 phone bill so could he just be worried i'd do that?

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WildChild

Could be kneejerk response. I think the idea makes sense. My kids and I have a family plan and that is way cheaper than individual would be. My phone alone would be about $80 a month, theirs are an additional $10 each. Sep accounts would each be about as much as mine. We get rollover minutes, have unlimited texting (which is what they use most) and can call each other without it costing minutes. If someday they want to, their contracts could be separated from mine.

Perhaps if he understood that the contracts can be separated if needed, he would feel more comfortable with it? Could you set it up in both names?

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OhThereYouAre

Bah - it's about the hassle. People stick with what they are comfortable with even if it isn't the best thing for them.

That and control. You'll be in charge of his phone AND he'll be locked to you for 2 years.

Let it go.

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Kallygirlie

WC, I completely agree. As for our plan, its not alot cheaper because we both carry a total unlimited plan so its $100 each, we save money with him not needing his laptop internet card because with my plan his phone will take the place. Not to mention we need the unlimited plan to talk to each other with as you said, same plan means we can talk to each other for free so we could possible drop the plan we have. I rarely talk on the phone other than with him. He seems to be coming around on this with me giving him rational reasoning and as I knew he could, he got Sprint to drop his contract if he wants to go. We shall see how this goes...lol!!!

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Hopeless Dork

Your tying in his unwillingness to change carriers to commitment issues in your relationship and while its an understandable response... they are 2 different things all together. So if your big fear is that he doesn't really see you guys together in 2 years, let that go... most guys don't think in big circles like that making all those connections that we do.

He probably just doesn't want to be bothered with messing with the phone bills and contracts and headaches.

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Nats

I agree with HD...I wouldnt read too much into it (well, actually, I probably WOULD read alot into it but do as I say and not as I do)...If he's not down with the shared plan, and you've worked on him for a bit :0), let it go...

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Kallygirlie

Thanks everyone. Honestly I'm not tying this to issues in our relationship. See he has a big issue sometimes with making up his mind. He gets completely comfortable with something and hates change sometimes. I'm trying to be balance like here. He makes almost twice what I make and we pay about the same bills seperately yet I always have more money left and he hates it. He keeps saying he wants to propose but cant afford a ring (which price really doesnt matter to me, the sweetheart ring I'm wearing cost him $16+resizing it and I love it). he's got this idea that everything has to be perfect. I love that about him because he feels I deserve nothing less. I just want to be smart. Seperately I pay $155 a month for my cell and he pays over $200 for his. Yet together we would pay less than $300. I'm not pushing the idea and I've told him that whatever he decides is ok with me. he sounds like now he is all for the change once he saw a phone he likde and heard the work $50 savings. LOL!!! Heck he's asking if we can do it tonight. LOL!!! its so funny how a man doesn't like the idea until he sees something flashy and cool. then again my man is a total geek and yes I say that to him. He laughs at me but he knows its one thing i love about him

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