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Question: Should I let someone's potential "type" interfere with whether or not I pursue them? Or should I just suck it up and try anyway?

This is why I ask...

I just got back to school and today I saw a friend of mine for the first time. I've always thought he was cute and funny, but he had a girlfriend all last year. He was crazy about this girl. He even had this artsy picture of her as the background of his computer screen. Anyway, now they're broken up so I was thinking about asking him to hang out. He said today how he was sad we didn't have classes together this semester because now he doesn't get to see me all the time.

BUT this is what my post is really about. His ex-girlfriend was petite... I am not petite. Also from pictures she looked 5'2 or 5'3. I'm 5'8. I bet my hips are twice the size of hers, maybe more. She also had this very different look about her. She isn't ugly, and I wouldn't call her beautiful, but her features were unique. He obviously thought she was gorgeous though. I just feel really different from her. Sort of opposite. And I don't know if it's worth putting myself out there if she's the type of girl he's looking for.

LanaBear

I say give it a shot. What you may think may be his type, may not be... At least ask him to hang out as friends and see where it goes. He may feel it is unfair to him for people thinking he is attracted to a "type" of girl.

Like I said, give it a shot...

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WildChild

From what I understand, males and especially young ones, go for a variety of "types". Why don't you let him decide if you are his type?

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baja

If you're interested definitely give it a shot! You're right, some guys always go for the same type, while others really have no type and then there are others like me who switch between favorite types. Remember this... just because he was with this girl doesn't mean she was his favorite "type". He may not even know what that is yet! You may be the game-changer!!

happy ending

i have seen pictures of my sweeties ex-girlfriend, she was blonde, slim, always perfect hair and make up, and earnt $120,000 a year. none of which applies to me - just trying to point out that men are attracted to many things, and inner beauty seems to be one. give it a go, he seems to like you very much and maybe he LIKES you too.

Good luck, not that i think you will need it.

ThexMrs

I agree with pretty much what everyone here has said. Definitely go for it. Like Happy, when I was with my boyfriend, I saw pictures of his ex. She had very, very short hair, her features were... Off to put it nicely and we are exact opposites. I have long hair, I'm taller than she was and not to be rude but definitely more attractive. She wore jeans and hoodies, I am always looking my best. The thing is... Looks aren't everything. That's what you are going on though as in "type." Maybe she wasn't his type but her personality made her an incredible fit for him. You just need to give it a try and see if there is something between you two.

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OhThereYouAre

Agreed.

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