BrownEyes33

hey, to let you in on a littel but of my background, I'm not very experienced in the romance department. I'm 23 and i've only had 2 serious boyfriends. The first one, had a porno addiction problem, i kept hoping that it would end by him going to therapy and programs. It never did so i left him..dragging it on and pretending to be his gilfriend for 2 years after w.out any sex or romance. Now i have another boyfriend and at first things were great! well the first 2 months.. i'm an affectionate kind of person, but i'm also sensitive. He's the COMPLETE opposite, and now we've been dating for 5 and a half months and I've just given up on reading him. He expects me to always KNOW how he feels even when he doesnt tell me he wants me to come over, i should know, i should know he wants to make love even though he doesnt say he wants to, i should know he thinks i'm beautiful even though he doesnt tell me very often at all, and when i ask him how i look.. i'm fishiing for compliments. And i should just understand that he doesnt have the gas to come to my house and pick me up, when i live across town. I keep telling myself, maybe i'm expecting too much! and its me being sensitive. My family and friends are telling me that it's him, he's just too lazy and doesnt deserve a girlfriend and i deserve so much better. I dont know why but its easier to believe that the issue is me being too sensitive. I guess because i know i have a track record of continuing to try and try in a relationship even when the issue is too big for me to try and solve. ANY ADVICE?? please help!

cactus

Let's see..you are beautiful, sensitive, caring and willing to work on your relationship. Hmmmm... As men, especially young men, we are capable of being supremely stupid. We all know this but refuse to admit it to ourselves or anyone else. We fail to recognize a good thing when we see it. Take care of yourself and let the chips fall where they may. True happiness comes from inside...

dr.mansview

he is a man who is not very open about his feelings..i see one every morning in my mirror..some open up as they become comfortable with the bf/gf situation and some don't..if he does not open up soon (and it's been 5 months) you will find yourself frustrated often..some men never do..

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tritonalum07

You sound like you're dating my ex boyfriend. Is his name Sam? Lol. My advice is honestly to get out of this relationship. If you're not getting what you need emotionally after talking to him about it repeatedly, he's just stubborn and isn't willing to change, despite caring about you as I'm sure he does. If you need more, go find it in someone who is willing to give it to you. I went through this on and off for two years and it drained me. It was never enough.

baja

Brown, you're 23, have so much in front of you and frankly you deserve far better. Move on, there are so many more fish in the sea!!! Don't waste another second now or forever with someone who doesn't treat you the way you want to be treated!

CHANDLERS WISH

Reverse psychology.

He said, you should know... that's his cop out for putting the blame on you for something he did or did not do..

You should know he has no gas? Yep your a white witch aren't you with a crystal ball.

That means, I didn't have gas and you weren't that important or else I would have loaned some money to get to you.

I think you have so much to offer, that most men would die for.

You just have to find the right guy who appreciates it and you.

Nothing at all to do with too sensitive, nor the fact that you have given up before trying.

You shouldn't have to try, you should be able to be you, loved for the way that you are you, and compromise, not try... Trying is when you pick the wrong partner and keep giving in to their whims which is what you are doing, taking the brunt and fall because he's pushing it all onto you instead of realizing his faults.

CW

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BrownEyes33

Thankyou so much everyone for your wonderful advice, I'm taking steps to start separating myself for this guy before it gets worse; bc i've been warned by his own sister; it wont get better. Once i separate myself its easier to see the issue for what it really is and i can brake it off, and be strong enough not to return.