Thread: Girls I want your opinion on pickup (guys hitting on you in a club)

Originally Posted by OhThereYouAre

Bah - you can't fib to me

Don't listen to him, UB. He's just an old man. Like REALLY old! Like... 30 or something!

There are three things that all men want....and two of em are money.

Bill Engvall said that a guy's three motivating factors are "Food, Sleep, and Sex."

That's all good to hear. But you'll find out soon enough....A relationship founded on lies and half truths won't last.

It can actually. But you have to turn in to a habitual liar. What the PUA community does wrong, and many guys (unfortunately) misinterpret this, is espouse the line "it's not lying, it's flirting." Inviting a woman back to your place to watch your cat do backflips is a good way to get her back to your house. Granted by this time she already knows that A) you most likely DON'T have a cat, and B) it gives her an excuse the next day as to why she went home with you in the first place.

It depends...a reaction can vary from irritating to annoying to pleasantly surprised to oh snap he's hot. Just depends on how you are received. The thing you need to remember is that no matter what their reaction is, there are a hundred other girls there and you have options.

In other words, get in to Harem Management!

Cold approach....is that PUA lingo? Reminds me of my insurance sales training, lol.

It's more of a sales term than anything else.

Cold Approach: "Open" a woman you've never talked to before with a chat up line.

Warm Approach: Introduced by a friend and given minimal background.

Hot Approach: You two know each other rather well. Basically, trying to turn your girl friend in to your girlfriend.

No offense to the ladies, but asking a woman what she wants to hear at any given time is futile.

It's like asking a politician to tell the truth. You'll get hit from every angle, but you might not get what it is you want.

-However-
Making note of something that attracted you to the woman in the first place is a good way to go. But don't put her out of your league with your first line. Be sincere. Be ballsy...be fun....what do you have to lose?

Dignity.

OG

Originally Posted by UberBicep

I am a man, 20 years old. I have never been successful with women and last year I went about changing that and got into pickup (getting good at picking up girls in clubs). I have always considered myself to be a geek and not having too many females in my life.

So basically, after lots and lots random approaches in clubs, getting girls numbers ect and getting rejected lots, in my face, I was just wondering how you felt about this?

Are you happy that guys like me who go from never being able to get a girlfriend to someone that gets phone numbers and meets a lot of women, i.e. a player?

For those of you that have never heard of pickup it is becoming more and more common. I have read books such as The Game and Mystery Method which have taught me so much and has helped my confidence so much.

Just wondering if you like the idea or not. Sorry for busting in on a females forum!

Everyone In my life knows about my involvement in pick up. From my parents to my boss. I also have told every single girl that I've picked up that Im a pick up artist.

There acceptance of pickup is highly Dependant on how you phrase it. As long as you bring it up in a way that doesn't "Feel wrong" to a women then she will accept it and infact encourage your growth!

I turned my sister into a FPUA and I helped my cousin find her now husband. Im sure as you know pick up has very little to do with actually PICKING UP WOMEN. It instead is centered through self-improvement and a greater understanding of social psychology and using that to captivate the attention of others. Men and women alike!

Accept that you are making the best of your life and I guarantee there will never be ONE women who will think that is wrong!

Live laugh and love

My theory is "Guys you meet at the bar, you leave at the bar." They're great to be entertained by through out the night and definitely great for getting drinks from, seldom good for conversation but that's it. Okay, okay... If I'm feeling naughtry they're okay for kissing but I'm VERY picky about that.

Going from a geek to a player doesn't mean anything. It doesn't mean you're better looking, no longer a geek or anything of that sort. It means you read some books and picked up on some girls. Big whoop? You still are who you are unless you've become a total fake. Don't ever be someone you're not. Besides, any one of those girls could either be giving you the wrong number, giving it to you cause they feel bad but aren't going to answer or they could be desperate and drunk. All are possibilities.

Don't let this go to your head.