kiwicute

Thank you all!
I think the reason I rush into a break up so often with him is because he pressures me to make a decision there and then. I often don't really have the choice to walk away and cool off because he wants an answer there and then. He is a very impatient young man and hates leaving things with a big question mark over them. And I can understand why.

But I think that we need to have a chat and i need to make it clear that i wont be breaking up with him every 5 minutes if he gives me time to cool off.

Also CW, thanks for your reply. I know i should not have snooped but trust has been a huge issue for me since i went on holiday and he cheated on me. I just want him to be a open book. And for the most part he is, but there are some things he keeps secret

Thank you all hunnnies x

OhThereYouAre

Ah - apologies. I didn't ascertain that from your original post. If he did cheat, then he too has some things to work on.

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prawnprincess

I feel like you're making excuses for him and babying him. If you feel like you have to "teach" him right from wrong and that he can't help but hit on other girls when you're gone, it doesn't seem that you can face each other in the relationship as equals. You shouldn't be pressured into staying in a relationship or accepting inappropriate behavior because someone has had a difficult childhood/upbringing. There are many people who have had difficult childhoods who can still behave appropriately, and then there are some who never get it. Make sure you are not wasting your time! Relationships should have some basic mutual understanding. Without that, everything is difficult!